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writes:I'm 31 yrs old and still virgin. I've being a virgin b/c I haven't had chance to loosing it. I'm in the middle of two guys who are military both. One I met and being in love with almost 2 years ago. I consider him the love of my life. Couldn't had sex with him b/c time was my enemy. He left a week after we met. We still up to date communicate mostly via email and phone calls but not as much as I would want since distance is another barrier. I LOVE HIM, but we can't go pass the friend zone, I guess he don't feel the same or maybe fond someone else. Although I have to admit he's the one man who shows real concern about my well being and cares about me to the extent of wanting to protect me.Now, I've met this other guy who SCREAMS SEX. He looks at me with desire and lust, not only me I guess since it's being well known to be a ladies man. He said he wants me, but I still haven't give in YET.I don't know, I' m in this dilemma. If to give in and have sex with guy who I know don't feel a thing about me and I know he'll leave soon and no seeing even again but will enjoy his body and sex or keep crying for the other one who I would give my life for but no response comes from him that way?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the ones who show curiousity about the guy I love. He's with someone else, so there's no turning point in there. My misery!:(
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reader, bfire  +, writes (6 December 2008):
Just out of curiosity, this other guy that you like, are you sure he knows that you like him? Have you talked to him about it. Many times guys will show great care to a girl they like, but feel it is disrespectful to "lust" after them. Or they may be shy around women, es especially ones they really love.
I know this from my own experience. So if you haven't seriously talk to about it to the guy you like. Don't just "guess" that he doesn't like you because he doesn't say it.
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (3 December 2008):
 Don't worry about that hon cause I can tell you one thing for sure. He's in the military and there are bound to be more single guys around him. Be sure to send him an occasional, friendly letter or card with nothing mushy and don't forget to send a nice pic or two of yourself and things that might remind him of you. He most likely will be willing to share the photos of the girl who likes him and you never know who just might be looking for a girl JUST LIKE YOU. It could turn out to be him!
Your decision to wait is going to be your best bet I am pretty sure. After all you don't want to get kicked to the curb.........and wind up with tire tracks on yer head where you done'n been run ova!!! 8-)
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks a lot for your advice, I´ll rather wait. The player guy is a loser that will make me feel worst after he´s done he´ll kick me off the curve and I don´t want that.
I want the other GI who is too much of a man to let me down even when he kinda knows I have feelings for him and yet won´t hurt my feelings. My terrible luck makes him unavailable for me and that´s my misery.
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reader, lookingforloveandfoundittwice  +, writes (3 December 2008):
just do it, you'll learn a few tricks for the one you actually love! if you are honestly 31 its time to get on with it and have some fun- before its too late!
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reader, littlemissalf123 +, writes (3 December 2008):
 HE LOOKS AT ME WITH DESIRE AND LUST
You've maintained your virginity for 31 years, and you want to let some guy just pop it and go of to war. I know they say support our troops, but really. So anyway you say he looks at you with desire and lust. Now, I'm not sure if your interested in getting married but with your age and LACK or experience I'm willing to bet some guy out there would like to look at you not only in lust, but with a check for your light bill in his hand. I mean are you serious? DON'T GIVE IN. I know they say you shouldn't use sex as a weapon, but at your stage in life, you could get not only a nueva ring, but a wedding ring.
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (3 December 2008):
For HEAVAN'S SAKES GIRL........NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! You should wait for that until you have found someone that you truely love who will love you in return. Never give yourself away just to be *hip in the crowd or on a whim.
Since you already feel love for the other guy I suggest that you give things a chance to grow. Who knows what tomorrow brings and he could just be waiting on that special moment in time to let you know he feels the same.
Whatever you do remember that SEX is Only LUST when you give yourself like this. When you give yourself to someone with Love it is MAKING LOVE. It's best to remain Virtuos until you have found that special someone you wish to share your life with and in God's eyes best until you are Married. That choice though along with all else is really a matter of personal belief and feelings. Weigh your choices carefully and choose well for it's a decision that will follow you for the rest of your life.
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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reader, werenotincontrol  +, writes (3 December 2008):
Well you know what people say with virginity, Its like a bubble. One prick and its gone.
From experience My first time was terrible. It was with someone I cared nothing for and it was in a terrible place too(fast food restaurant bathroom)
I dont really regret it. Im not proud of it but its not the worst thing that could happen you understand?
My point being everyone dreams of candlelight on a heart shaped bed with your husband who will be with you for ever and ever. But nobody ever does that.
Do wat you feel is right. If you really love military man, And you think he is worth even the littlest chance he can be your lover then my advice is to wait.
If not and if you really just want to have sex for sex sake then just take ride of snoop dogg the player there. Just be careful to wear a condom and dont catch anything if he has been sleeping around.
Best Wishes,
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