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writes:Hi, i have a questions regarding the loss of my virginity. My Girlfriend of 9 months has asked if we can have sex, she knows i have always wanted to since we first started going out, now the oppertunity is here i dont know if there is any reason why i shouldnt? As i have heard many stories that ended in regret and a child, i relaise this doesnt happen everytime but i wanted ome advice on it. Thanks, by the way she is 16 and i am 15. Reply to this Question
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reader, TheHuggleBear +, writes (4 December 2010):
 I think tennisstar has 2 valid points there. Obviously; some people do have sex under 16; because sometimes they're just ready. You need to sit down and have a SERIOUS think about whether or not the two of you are ready to have sex. I think you need to talk to her about it also -- she may be having regrets about mentioning it to you.
I do suggest that you buy condoms and always have them handy -- just in case it does get to that point; you've got to be ready.
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reader, LovelessAct1  +, writes (4 December 2010):
So based on your two concerns (regret and/or a child) one of those is much easier to deal with than the other.
The child: Be safe. If she's not on BC, where a condom. Make sure you are used to wearing one before you have sex for the first time (if you've never put one on properly, you can risk it not doing its job)
The regret: This one is harder to tackle. Regret usually comes afterwards once you unwind and consider who it is you just had sex with. Is this someone you actually want to spend your life with? Do you wish you would have waited? Is the relationship going to get complicated from here on? All of those are completely up to you and we can't tell you yes or no. This is why making that decision is a tough one. You are very young and as much as I'm sure you care for one another, relationships that sprout this young have a very low success rate as far as marriage goes (simply because you're both still changing so rapidly)
One more thing; have you tried oral sex or other forms of physical contact that could result in sexual release? If you haven't, I'd recommend tackling those before moving on to sex. Who knows, those may just curb your appetite for a while until you're more mature and ready to make the decision.
Either way, be safe!
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (4 December 2010):
 No. Firstly because, if you were ready, you wouldn't be posting this question.
I'm not going to say it's against the law as a reason like tenisstar88 did, because I know that doesn't stop anyone, but your girlfriend may not be ready. Sex is a much bigger deal emotionally for girls, and a lot of people have no idea what they're in for before it's done and it's too late to take it back.
Take care
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (4 December 2010):
 You can't have sex for a few reasons.
1.) It's against the law. In Britain, the legal age of consent to sex is 16. You're girlfriend is of age but you are not. So unless you want to get her thrown in jail for rape, (even though it's willing) I suggest you abide by the law.
2.) You're not ready to have sex. You ask a bunch of random strangers whether you should or shouldn't then you're not ready. If you were ready then there would be no question about it.
Yeah, the first time tends to suck for the girl..because it wasn't as special, the guy she lost it to ended up breaking her heart, or using her for just that purpose and it causing physical pain.
When you are 16 and do go to have sex, I suggest you wear a condom to prevent STDs and to reduce the risk of fathering a child. Also, make sure your partner is on a form of birth control, condoms alone won't do the job.
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