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writes:I'm 14 and my boyfriend is 15. Last weekend I stayed the weekend with him. I'm a virgin and he told me once before that he didn't want to take my virginity away. Well we started making out and I started biting his neck which REALLY turns him on. Then we went outside on a trampoline. We started to make out again, then he kinda lost control and put his hand in my pants. The next thing I know he lays up and I hear his belt buckle undo then he tried to pull down my pants. I had to remind him in case he had forgotten that I was a virgin, then he pulled his pants back up and apologizsd. He said "see that's why I don't want you biting my neck." The truth is, I really do want to have sex with him but i do not know how to tell him. He really loves me and I really love him. So how do I convince him into having sex with me? Should I just bite his neck some more and make him forget I am a virgin? Please I really need some advice. Reply to this Question
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reader, Pretty2K12Lady +, writes (3 July 2011):
 keep biting on his neck and forget that youre a virgin...if this is what you wanted to do then y wait...? I dont feel any hesitation in this letter either...you wanna give it to him but you dont know how to tell him....JUST DO IT! He wants it and you do to...it shouldnt be that hard to give something up you wanna give to someone special....its like someone giving you a thousand dollars and you dont know what to do with it...Girl just keep biting the neck and he will forget..if he doesn't....then tell him you ready...
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reader, goodcharlotte4life +, writes (25 January 2009):
goodcharlotte4life is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks for your answers guys and girls. but this guy broke up with me. :/ but there is a high chance he'll ask me out again as always... so thanks for future advice also. (:
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reader, alanna_HD  +, writes (31 December 2008):
 Forget about your age..if you feel that you are both emotionaly and physically ready, and that you are both willing to axcept the consequences and responsibilities that come with sex, then forget about people going on at you about your age..just make sure its what you both want..AND ALWAYS USE CONTRACEPTION!! If you know that this isn't gona be a one off between the two of you, then i'd suggest you do what i did and go on the pill before you lose your virginity and ALWAYS use a condom, that way your taking responsibity and reducing the risk of pregnancy.
Anyway..back to your question! Clearly your not gona need much to convience him, he already wants to have sex with you and if you make it clear to him that your ready and its what you want, then you'v nothing to worry about! He sounds like a really nice guy, and so i think if you don't tell him that you want it and bite on his neck and just let him take your virginity then he might feel guilty about it after and things could be wierd between you. I think your best just telling him how you feel!
xXx
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reader, egrl202 +, writes (28 December 2008):
My advice,stay away from the boys at this age, hang with the girls and work on you!
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reader, -NothingLasts4ever- +, writes (26 December 2008):
 He's better than most guys. Most guys would have carried on and forced it all on you. At leats he stopped and apologised.
I personally think that if you really do love this boy then go for it. I had sex for the first time when I was 14 so I don't really see the problem in it. As long as you use protection and don't make it incredibly public that you're having under age sex, everything should be good.
I don't understand how the others can say your body isn't "ready" for sex. As long as you build up to it, the areas which need to be ready would be ready. You can't exactly be prepared for something that's never happened to you before anyway so my advice would be to just ignore them.
Good luck
xx
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reader, Howsyou? +, writes (25 December 2008):
 Well, personally, I don't think that youshould have sex at your age. However, that is not my decision to make. If you DO have sex, make sure it is protected.
Also, are you sure you really want sex with him? I mean, if you did, you wouldn't have stopped him. That wuick reation was you telling yourself more than him that your not ready.
However, like i previously said, its not my decision on weither or not you have sex so, if you do want to, just keep biting his neck and dont stop him if you want to continue. But think it all through befor you do. I mean, consider the consiqueneis. What happens if the controception fails? what happens if you get pregnant? Would he be there? would he be supportive? What would your parents and friends think?
Will he still love you after? Will he just go out and spread to all his friends that he managed to have sex with you? Are you sure he is the right guy to lose you virginity to?
Try answering these questions to yourself and a few other lead on questions you might think of before making any quick decisions. It is natural at this age to have sudden urges for sex but these are something best ignored, it is just your body developing itself and getting ready for the right guy.
Well, drop me a message sometime. Thats all I could think of for now. Hope it helps.
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reader, Arianz  +, writes (25 December 2008):
 Dear
I suggest you to wait few more years like around 2 or 3 year more. 14 ages is not perfect for sex. I mean your vagina’s status is not for that. So if you can then please wait few.
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If u determine that u will have it with him with in few days then tell him about ur physical condition. I mean if u tell him you are virgin then it will helpful to make that day nice…other wise ur day will be worst. Cause it will painful and can be bleed.
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If don’t want him to know about ur virginity then better make ur foreplay so long so that u can make ur self well wet. If ur will wet lot then his penis will go smooth and he can’t feel that much. Also u can make him busy with kissing when he will approach to insert penis.
Anymore help mail me….
Best of luck
Take care,
arianz
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reader, Hrywnak +, writes (25 December 2008):
Whilst you may think you are ready for sex physically I would highly recommend that you wait like has been suggested, say a couple of years at least.Whilst it may be frustrating when you become horny at times it would be best not to just sleep with guys to please them (i don't mean to pleasure them) as like decent said it can be painful and at your age (not trying to be patronizing) you might not understand how special a thing your virginity can be.I lost my virginity at a late stage in my life with someone i fell in love with, someone who i knew for a good year and it was the greatest time of my life. she was very patient with me, she never pressured me and it was worth any amount of waiting. i would say the good thing about waiting is you have someone who is there to be more mature about the situation you find important to you, not someone who is going to pull down your pants because he can't control his body and not realise if you are a virgin and probably make your first time unforgettable for the wrong reasons.I suggest if you really want to give your virginity away to this guy then at least try to explain that you are a virgin and try to make it special, even if you don't care too much about the guy or love him then at least you should be able to have a better experience, especially if you check out some romantic ideas on sex before hand.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (25 December 2008):
 The guys are right, you're not ready for sex.
You're making a mistake and it's not worth the pain of STD, pregnancy, etc.
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (25 December 2008):
 Just do the same thing as before but don't remind him that your a virgin. Just let it go smooth. He's a cool guy by actually appoligizing for the attempt. And I can see that he really respects you.. Well you guys are young and under the legal age etc so you might want to do it in a very private place. I guess you gotta ask yourself is he the guy you want to be your first? Be safe and make sure he's protected by using a condom.
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reader, a_decent_1  +, writes (25 December 2008):
 My advice would be to wait for 3 more years!! It's "NECESSARY' to wait for that long.. You're just 14 and your body is NOT READY for sex.You don't wanna face pain, pregnancy, sexual diseases, STDs, STIs.. There is a LOT that can go wrong in this age.. You might not be able to handle the pain of an intercourse... IT PAINS at this age.. !!G'day
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