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writes: I really want a engaged man!! We have spent the night together after a few drinks and have been out a lot. After that we are so good togther! His fiancee lives miles away and he tells me how much he needs sexual attention all the time as he hasn't seen her for 2 months. Shall I relieve him of the sexual tension?
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reader, Green_Eyez +, writes (20 September 2005):
The fact that you are even writing this letter tells you your answer? Why don't you put yourself in her shoes? How do you think she would feel if she knew about this? How hurt do you think she'd be. Don't be sly and don't be the other woman. Tell this loser straight out that he either finishes with her to be with you or he doesn't get you at all. Sorry to sound judgmental but I've been on the receiving end of shit like this and it isn't nice believe me. Behave with some dignity and don't allow yourself to be used by this man.
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reader, I Dont Lie +, writes (20 September 2005):
 Are you even serious about posting this question? Its like you're only asking this to get approvals that you're donig the right thing when in fact you know it's the wrong thing to do. I do't get it, it's obvious you have had time to contemplate about this, and you see the wrong in this as you've stressed the word 'engaged' and mentioned the word 'fiancee' so why are you still even considering breaking them up? He's not even worth your time if he's hinting to you that he wants sex (which is cheating on his fiancee, mind you, don't you forget that)!! And I can't believe how easy you are!! I'm sorry to be harsh but that's my first impression of you. Prove me otherwise then and do the right thing!! If I were you, I'd run as fast as I can from this cheating, using, lying man!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2005): In my opinion you are just looking for an excuse to have sex with this man. When he tells you he is frustrated sexually, tell him he can take care of it himself. Friends don't need to do such a thing, unless they want to and it seams to me you do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2005): Hi
Just imagine you were her and your boyfriend was having sex with somebody else would you like it? He obviously only has one thing on his mind and doesn't sound like he can be trusted. If you do you'll regret it save yourself for a single guy that can love you in return and make you happy.
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reader, Delila +, writes (19 September 2005):
Mmmh well, I wouldn't do it, but you don't want to know what I would do, you want to know if it would be ok if you did it, will what anybody says here really make any difference to you? It is a question of morals here and after a few drinks morals tend to go out of the window. I would advise you to avoid this man if you feel it would be wrong to have sex with him. Of course you could always tell yourself that you are not the one that is engaged so why should it matter what you do, but if you think about it honestly the guy must be a bit of an a**hole anyway if he is fooling around on his missus-to-be!
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reader, little_miss_sunshine +, writes (19 September 2005):
Hello!
Personally, I think this man is using you, and if I were you I wouldnt let this happen. Please think of his poor fiance and how she would feel too, put yourself in her shoes.
At the end of the day I think this bloke is a rat, and I would phone his fiance and tell her that.
Dont give in to him! Imagine haow you would feel if you were her!!!
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2005): No, you fool!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2005): I would not relieve him of his sexual tension because you're setting yourself up to get hurt. It already sounds as if you're developing feelings for him. Remember he is engaged and only asking for a "booty call". Now if you think you can have sex with him and not get hurt when he marrys his fiancee, than more power to you. I would start dating other people who are single and committment free.
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