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writes:Heya, these are the presents I bought for my valentines. I though about them really carefully before I bought them and each one of them has a meaning behind it. A teddy bear (it was a erally cute valentines one and reminded me of him because i always call him my teddy bear)50 First Dates- the movie (because I'm really forgetful and he's always reminding me of things)Girls aloud CD (a little joke between us because he hummed one of the girls aloud songs constantly when it first came out)I bought them all because they were special for the two of us. I thought he would be happy but I don't think he liked them. Also he says that if his mum asks he's not going to show her these but another thing he bought for himself last weekend. Should I buy him a better present next time or is he not being fair on me?BTW - we are in a long distance relationship
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reader, cute_lily +, writes (15 February 2009):
cute_lily is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks. For our next anniversary I've decided to just buy him a Josh Groban CD because its his fave artist. He got me ipod socks and a coldplay CD.
He also told me that he wanted a gift that he could show his mum as she wouldn't understand. I didn't mind this but I really got the feeling from him that he didn't like the gifts. I know they were a bit girly but he's really sweet and loves things that have meanings behind them so I thought these would be the perrfect gift. Guess I know better for next time. Thanks for all your advice.
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reader, Bill23 +, writes (15 February 2009):
First off its the thought that counts you could have not brought his ungrateful ass anything. Next time don't get him nothing and see if he wishes that you by him a gift of any kind next time.
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reader, aunty jess +, writes (15 February 2009):
 tell him hes being silly and you put a lot of effort into those presents loli was in a long distance relationship for 2 years and i agree that you make these small occasions all the more special with your gifts, i do agree maybe they are unmasculine presents but you put a lot of effort and love into choosing them and you deserve appreciation for it!xjess
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (15 February 2009):
 I can only agree with what has been said already. I think its great that you put a lot of thought into your gifts. That's sweet, but unfortunately, all of (or most of) the gifts would be embarrassing for a guy to receive. That is in no way because of the meaning of them, but simply because... well, can you imagine how it feels for a guy to be asked "what did your girlfriend get you for Valentines day?" and then having to reply "A teddy bear, because it reminds her of me". He's going to get a little ripped on for it in my opinion.
I think I would have suggested getting him a gift that he would have been happier to recieve - A nice watch, or after shave, or indeed a 2nd hand XBOX game. If you did that, you could have thrown in one of the gifts you gave him, as a little joke. But not to worry, what's done is done now, so consider something like that for the future.
It'd be nice to know what he got you for Valentines day.
I know the pressures of long distance relationships. There is a lot on you both to make special occasions such as valentines day all the more special, and that's what makes you try really hard to find gifts which are more relevant to the pair of you. Please don't feel like I'm taking anything away from the sentimental value of what you got him, because those gifts are special to you, and funny at the same time. But next time I propose that you "get back to basics" as it were, and try not to go overboard on the sentimental gifts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2009): I agree with army medic. :) xbox game has lots more meaning.
Think you have a good thought process and show a very good ability at choosing the right presents for good reasons. However he is a boy - so any one of those would be ok (especially the girls aloud cd as that would be cool). But...all three is a bit too sickly.
However you don't say what he got you?
Hugs Star.x.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (15 February 2009):
Well if he shows his mum then he's going to have to explain it all to her and she'll take the mickey out of him and will probably tell the rest of his family too.
I always find it's nice to get a sweet jokey little gift like yours but also get them something they will actually want and be happy with.
I mean, your gifts are very thought out and very sweet and he probably appreciates the THOUGHT very very much. But the actual objects are going to go in the bin or on a shelf to be forgotten about pretty quickly.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (15 February 2009):
 How do you know he didn't like them? You don't say.
That he isn't going to show them to his mom means nothing. Do you know what a mother will do to a son who is being given cuddly toys by his girlfriend? He might as well invite you while his mother is around with his baby pictures on the cofee table.
Unless you get more specific with the way he showed his dislike I think you are reading to much into what might be embarresment on several fronts with the gifts.
A: his mom teasing him
B: his own gifts not being half as good in his eyes
C: a teenboy getting a cuddly toy
D: a teenboy liking the gift of a cuddly toy
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (15 February 2009):
 I'm sorry to say this hun, but guys tend not to like teddy bears and chick flicks! It looks like you have bought him a girls night in pack.
He would probably just settle for a well thought out card, and an Xbox game (a second hand one would be fine)
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