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writes:I recently met a gentleman @ a local gym where I work. He gave me his email - I replied - we went on our first date saturday night, but the second date (monday) he already wanted for me to be his girlfriend. He's 48 never been married no children. Should I be concerned that he is too eager for a relationship, most books say that men like to chase. Please help Reply to this Question
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reader, Princess Aunty  +, writes (23 November 2010):
yes you should be worried. because he seems to be an easy guy and he might most probably be using you for his sexual desire.
maybe in the coming days he'll dare to ask you for it if you readily agree to be his girlfriend now as he will take you as an easy girl. but don't do this mistake. try knowing him more before you take such decision
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reader, BunnyAce +, writes (23 November 2010):
 Its about what you want and if the chemistry is there. It could just be because you make him feel at ease causing him to let go of the macho man image that guys feel they have to present.
I am only 21 but had this issue present itself a couple times. three different guys, three separate times asked me to be there gf quickly. Each time I said yes to just give it a shot. They all even said that they loved me in less than two weeks. The first two I didn't feel right, they third I am still with and am happier than ever!
If you're the type of girl that can make a guy's true colors show like I can that means that the guys will come, its up to you if they stay.
So again, figure out if the chemistry is there, do u feel anything for him? If so give it a shot, see where it goes. If not, I am sure u can easily meet another =)
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reader, dirtball +, writes (23 November 2010):
 "Most books" LMAO!!!
Guys reach a point where the "thrill of the chase" is no longer a thrill. In fact it's a horrific turn off. My guess is that at 48 he's reached this point. In fact, I've gotten very sick of those games and I'm only 30. I know plenty of other guys who feel the same way.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-keep-him-guessing.html
Just check out the replies from most of the guys in that thread.
I think you should just be honest. Tell him you are enjoying your dates, but not quite ready to define anything. He will appreciate that. Even if it's not exactly what he wants to hear, the fact that you're being up front and honest is something he will like. Especially if he's sick of playing those games like I'd bet he is.
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reader, dmartin89  +, writes (23 November 2010):
 Yes, that is unusual.
Your worry indicates that you aren't in the same place as him.
Gently let him know that you aren't ready to make a decision to be in a relationship yet and you would like to go on some more dates.
I'm sure that if he is interested in you, then he will accept this.
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