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anonymous
writes:We've known each other for about three years and have always been really close friends. In that time, however, I had been in a relationship until recently. Her roommates have hinted at me in the past that she wants more than a friendship, but seeing as I was in a relationship, I just smiled and shrugged it off.About a month ago, she got back together with her ex from high school but now that I'm single, she's been saying all these bad things about him. I actually know her ex (he goes to our college as well) and he's a great guy, but I think she might searching for an excuse to break up with him.As great of a person she is, I really don't want to be in a relationship after this recent bad breakup, and I ESPECIALLY don't want to be the cause of her and her BF breaking up. I also don't want to make things awkward between us as friends by bringing it up (she's never actually told me she has feelings, so in bringing it up I could make it embarrassing for her)Advice? Thanks :)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (23 November 2010):
 I think the best advice here really would be not to say anything to her at all. If she does hint at you that she would like to be with you then you can be honest with her and tell her that you are not wanting anything at the moment as you are still getting over a bad break up. A bit of advice would be the next time she complains to you about your boyfriend tell her that you think he is a great guy and that your sure he will treat her right, also keep using the word friends around her for example any occasion you get a chance you could say you are such a great friend to me, am so glad that i can call you that, or maybe even as a friend am so glad that you are in a happy relationship ect ect. Things like that so she can get the hint that you just see her as a friend.
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