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writes: ive been sleeping with a women ive knowen for a few years, i worked with her boyfriend for two years about 8 weeks ago we were in town we kissed and ever since then we have been having sex on a regular basis, ive spoken to her on a personal level, and she says she doesnt like her b/f, they have been having problems in the bedroom and shes only with him because shes been with him for 10 years and doesnt want to hurt him, they dont live together and hardly see each other, she also thinks hes cheating on her, hence the problems in the bedroom, she asked me if she finished with him would i go out with her and i said, in a heart beat! at first it was just lust but now i think i really like her, we text and talk all day, but i havent seen her in a few days and its driving me crazy, but she only opens up to me when shes had a drink, i try and talk to her whens she sober and she will change the subject like she dont want to think about it, do you think im wasting my time with her or is it worth hanging on in there, i know what ive done is wrong, but shes not happy, i didnt go to her she came to me, what did i do next?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (5 July 2007):
 As to being wrapped around a finger, maybe. Who knows. I say, wait.
I would also recommend that you didn't have a more serious relationship with her until she finishes with her current boyfriend. This way, you will know what she truly wants. If time goes by and she doesn't leave him, well, you will have your answer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your answers guys, tho i would like to make a few things clear, she does feel like a terrible person and that she should of ended it with her b/f before she started things with me, but it just happened, yes she has cheated on her b/f but her b/f had allso cheated on her, im not sayin two wrongs make a right but in a way he pushed her away and she was lonely, they are like strangers in the night, and when they do see each other they argue, this was before i cme into the picture, i told her last night that she needs to sit down and talk to him to see if they have anything left with each other, i just fel like she is stuck with someone she doesnt like because shes in a routine of 10 years, she has told me she hates him, she hasnt slept with him since weve been together and about 6 weeks before, she just doesnt know how to end it with him. or do you think ive been wraped around a finger? thanks
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reader, eddie  +, writes (4 July 2007):
 Actually, she sounds like a terrible choice for a partner. Look at her track record. She's a cheater, liar etc. Is this what you want. Look for a partner with integrity. She says she doesn't want to hurt him. So she screws you. Something tells me when he finds out he might be..Hmmmm....Hmmmm.....HURT !!
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reader, nologo  +, writes (4 July 2007):
 Look at this from different angles.
First, I see that she is using you.
Second, she is cheating on her partner when sleeping with you.
As "shes been with him for 10 years", so she got used to this.
If she dumps him, can you be sure the pattern does not repeat?
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (4 July 2007):
I say, wait. She already knows you'd be with her. Don't push things. And, if she should not come to you, well, so be it.
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