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male
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41-50,
*addiff
writes:I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 2 years now and live together with her son from a previous relationship and my daughter with her who's 4 months.Lately I found pictures of her with an ex and a sketch she drew of another one naked and these things really freaked me out and i broke down from seeing them and her past :( After that I was afraid of meeting them and when i do it sux but I'm really working on that and think I'm getting somewhere :)The main problem is I just found out that she'd slept with another woman, then more came that she was also with a guy at the same time, my fault for never wanting to talk about the past but the reason was because it'd hurt to hear those things and it really does. Then I found out more, and the worst partwas who it was with. It was with the father of her son but she never loved him and was with him for only 2 weeks, they went on a trip to london then stayed with that girl and ended up having a 3-some.She says it was because she was curious about sleeping with a woman and thought seeing as the guy was there she may as well. That bit really hurts as she says she was never in love and that's why she did it because of there'd be no risk of jealousy which makes sense, but she has no reason to try this type of thing with me because our normal sex is the best ever.I just feel so bad that the guy had her and another girl in a night of something amazing, and that she was going down on the girl while 'with' him and a part of me wants that with her now but not sure what to do.It may be so I've had what all her exes have had and more or because I am generally interested in being with her in that way, but with me she doesn't really want to do any experimenting or to try new things because she says it's so great it doesn't need boosting but I don't see it as boosting but just trying new things
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reader, yellowdaffodil  +, writes (4 July 2007):
You have made a few statements that I believe answered your question. She participated in these acts with people she did not love. Love changes everything. Sex will never be the same between you if you share it with someone else. She knows this and that my dear is why she is saying "no" to this act.
Relish the fact that she just wants you and she loves your lovemaking. It's an exceptional complement.
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reader, penat +, writes (4 July 2007):
having a threesome in a stable relationship is a bad idea. it causes a cloud of mistrust. questions pop up like did he like her better than me, did she like her better than me. you will both be better off trying something new together. theres fantasy and reality. talking about past experiences should be open and you both should feel comftable when doing this, it can cause problems like this because you feel why not me. shes right to say if you do try this there should be no strings attached.your happy as a couple you don't need anyone else.
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