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writes:I am 45 year old male, I've being dating a woman the same age, last week she told me she wants two weeks space. Does this mean she wants a clean break, I like her a lot and she says she likes me to but I'm confused. She won't answer my texts so what do I do?
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reader, vospie  +, writes (21 February 2011):
 It's really hard when you like someone and you have to not text or call or see them. Every day is a punishment; just getting through it takes a week, as the songs always say.
If she wants a break, then it probably isn't that positive. I don't know how long you've been seeing her but she is not talking to you if you don't understand why she's asked for this space. That doesn't auger well. You seem confused because you don't know why and she's not respecting your right to know and understand. That might indicate that she is not really into you. I would wait until she's ready because trying to call her will definitely antagonise her. Let her have her space and use it to feel more independent of her. If she comes back, don't fall all over her, consider whether you need someone like her in your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2011): Never go on a break. If you agree to a break, you basically agreeing to "ill be here no matter what". Be a man and tell her its either you date, or you don't.
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reader, Blonde68 +, writes (19 February 2011):
I really hate it when people say they want a break... it leaves everything up in the air, and you wondering "are we together, or are we not"!.
I take it there has been some issues within the relationship that you haven't shared with us, because people don't normally say out of the blue, I want a break. Perhaps if you give us a bigger picture of the situation, we will be able to provide you with helpful advice.
However, in the meantime, I advise you to just give her space... don't text or call her, because that will just push her further away.. you must respect her wishes and just give her the break that she is wanting. If she truly wants to be with you, once she has cleared her head (for whatever reason), she will be in touch. I suggest you try and fill your time going out with friends, and enjoying yourself the best you can... as this will help you pass time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2011): no this simply means she wants a break from you to see if your right for her or not! so give her that week. do not bother her or be texting, calling, or emailing her! giver a week to miss you. don't give her a week where your constantly bothering her and annoying her. if you don't giver her time, how can she miss you? if you keep bothering her or texting her, she will most likely dump your sorry ass.
I'm saying this because my ex did the something and i did what your doing and it doesn't work it will make things worse. so if you man up and show her the you don't "need" her but rather "want" her it will show her how much confident you have make her jealous and she's gonna want you back.
So, my advise to you is to use the "No contact" rule. do not contact her, it will show her that your ok without her and trust me, she will come back. 99% of times it works. but if you keep bothering her, texting and all the stuff it will show her how pathetic and weak you are. so your old enough you decide what's best for you! :) im only 20 so i don't have much to offer but i learned the hard way and i wish i hadn't.
good luck mat!
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reader, firstlovelastlove  +, writes (19 February 2011):
 She wants a two week break, give her three. Seriously, give her three weeks. Let her come back to you.
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