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writes:Hey, I just came across this site and I thought I just put my question out there. Oh and this is a Long Distance Relationship Question. I live in the US and she lives in Canada (555 mile[996 km] separation)I'm going to tell the story and then ask the question(If that's alright)Okay, so it started about 6 months ago, I met this girl on this teen dating site(Don't judge me). She contacted me first, like any normal relationship starts with just a simple "hey" or "hi." Well within a couple hours of chatting with each other and seeing each other in pictures(I'm pretty smart on the internet so I didn't give any personal information), I was able to get her email(which I use for IMing). We started chatting, and eventually started webcamming with each other(Which proved she wasn't some 50 year old pedophile). So 6 months pass of chatting and webcamming and we really like each other. We talk about meeting each other sometime next year. Don't get me wrong, I know all the bad things to meeting someone off the internet, but this is different. We both tell each other secrets, we roleplay, everything a mature LDR has. We're both 16 now, she is 3 months older. I'm want to meet her and she wants to meet me.You guys probably think I'm crazy for liking someone this much off of some site. She's different though. We gave each other our numbers and we started texting each other. We called once or twice(It cost and my parents didn't want that). Both our parents don't know we're talking to. I guess I feel bad, but I don't want to stop talking with her because my parents don't want me to.I guess my questions are:1) Should I tell my parents about her? And should she tell her parents about me?2) Should I go and meet her when she comes to visit the city near me for a trip?3) Do you think it's okay how we met and for us to continue it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice! I still have a year till she comes to the US on her trip though.I'm pretty sure I can hold out on waiting to see her. I know it will be hard, but instead of thinking of how long why not think about how much of a good time we'll have together?We've also just recently gave each others our own address's so we can send letters to each other. I'm thinking of sneaking a mizpah coin into my letter to her one time.
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (8 October 2009):
 I think it's absolutely fine the way you met. It really makes no difference if you met her online or while out shopping. I know there are dangers in meeting people you first met online but if you take the precautions you have already, you should be fine.
1. Only tell you parents if you think they need to know. Maybe as you're 16 you should tell them. I wouldn't give them all the details and what your plans are, but you could say you have a friend who lives in Canada and she's coming to the US soon and you want to spend some time with her. It's always better that your parents know where you are and who with.
2. I would meet her. Meet during the day, in a busy place and make sure someone knows where you are.
3. It's fine how you met and it's also fine to continue what you're doing.
One thing you have to remember though is that LDRs are really hard. If you end up liking each other it will be very hard when you feel like seeing her often or talking to her and you know that you can't. If you think you can deal with all that then go ahead and see what happens. Take a chance, you never know.
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (8 October 2009):
 1) Yes and Yes
2) If you want to but make sure people know where you and what you are doing. Always have contact with someone who could help you and it would be better to bring a friend along.
3) How you met is fine, it's not a crime to meet on the internet and if you are interested in her there is no need to stop.
Good Luck!
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