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writes:hi. my friend is 55, i'm 42. she lives in glasgow and me in stoke on trent. we met as friends, developed lots of strengths etc.from the first meeting we both didnt fancy each other but got on very well.this was in october 2007. we spoke and both agreed that we are soulmates. we met again in nantwich, seemed to be more than friends sort of. then to my surprise she asked how wud i feel if she met someone. i couldnt answer, so she told me how she wud feel if i met someone. JEALOUS.they were my thoughts exactly.I'm not her sort but she has developed deep feelings for me and me for her.So i went up to visit her, we kissed and cuddled, i didnt force anything.then on the last day i asked her what she wants from us. friends.because she cant get over her ex.then today, i hardly heard from her all week, i had an email that she had been down,sad because she hasnt got a man.shes goin out with friends tomorrow and she says hopefully she'll strike lucky.so within 4days of telling me she cant get over her ex, she's found a miracle cure?imagine how i feel this moment i time. what do i do?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (26 January 2008):
 When you are near her, you are not appreciated . It would be better if you leave her and then she might feel your loss because she took you for granted.
If you want to improve your outlook, get away from her and make her realize what she has been missing in her life.
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reader, Dangly +, writes (26 January 2008):
move on with your life, it will kill her inside! and probably make her want you. It will be a complete role reversal. Then you will have the decision, do you really want her anyway? or are you better off without her? enjoy it all no matter what, you only live once! :D
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reader, Neboraic +, writes (25 January 2008):
if she knows you like her and coming after you then your waiting for a train thats never coming (metaphor). If she doesnt want you then she shouldnt say she would be jealous. And what does strrike lucky mean, do you mean with a man that isnt you.
I know its gonna be hard to find another soul mate but looking for one is better than waiting for this train.
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (25 January 2008):
 Look, you've made your feelings known to her. I say get out and meet women and take things slow. You cannot be expected to wait for her... It's not fair on you.
There could be any number of reasons why she's being like this:
She could be scared of getting hurt again and testing you?
Maybe by her getting out and meeting guys she'll realise you are the one she wants... Nothing like some disasterous dates to wake you up and make you "smell the coffee".
Perhaps she is just feeling alone and wants someone there and you've been there?
You could possibly stay friends and over time you might get it together? If this happens it happens.
However, you shouldn't wait. Get out there and meet women and take things slowly. You might meet someone better for you during that time and if she approaches you, you can then make a proper decision as to what/who YOU want.
Just a few thoughts there for you to consider. Best of luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2008): Lose her, she's playing mind games with you and she obviously does not know what she wants, and is very confused. But even if you got into a relationship with this type of person, it would just be an emotional roller coaster and a constant struggle with her playing mind games and trying to make you jealous. I don't see any good coming from a relationship with this type of person. I bet if you start withdrawing your emotions from her, for example when she says she hopes she "strikes lucky" tell her " go for it, girl" act like you don't care about her. I bet you any money her tune will change and she'll be more clingy toward you. But you don't want someone that only wants you when you don't want them. SO I say that you should say "bye bye".
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