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writes:my ex-sister in-law had an affair with my ex-husband while we were still married - now after i have been divorced for 10 years, my ex-sister in-law is now dating my new father-in-law (i remarried in 2006) and he is recently widowed (december 2010)she is a snake - and a liar - now she wants to ruin my life againwhat do i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2011): The only thing you can do is what you can yourself. You can't control anyone else in the entire circle, so forget about it.
Don't keep any secrets though, that old shit, just make sure everyone knows about it, so everyone in the circle is warned.
Then, live your life as best you can, treat everyone as you would wish to be treated yourself...and hope you married a good man because she undoubtedly wants to fuck around with him as well to make her feel better about herself.
She's probably got a lot of buried emotional shit, and you just happened to run into her.
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reader, theresag  +, writes (24 July 2011):
Let you father in law know about the history.Dont ever have her in your house.Dont go there if she is there.It wont last I believe.Stick to your guns but dont be nasty.All the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2011): You remember how special YOU are! have no fear of her even though it is rather odd. I would have ziltch to do with her ever you don't need her anywhere near you. She has NO POWER OVER YOUR LIFE unless you give her it by feeling that it will all repeat. Stay away from low life in your mind aswell as physical..
spunky monkey
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (23 July 2011):
 That is creepy that she would be dating your new Father in Law!
She can not ruin your life, because she is not dating YOU or YOUR SPOUSE. However, your new husband could speak to his Dad and say.."Pops, that gal is a skank!".
Your Father in Law may or may not care. That is HIS business, because it really does not involve you.
She may very well be a snake and a liar, but you are not obligated to have anything to do with her. If she becomes a more permenant item in your Father In Laws life, you can nicely tell him (and your husband) that she will not be invited to anywhere YOU are. If they know the history, then they should understand and respect your boundary!
Best Wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2011): OMG you poor woman, I really feel for you!! I do not know what to suggest, there isn't really much you can do. I would maybe tell your husband that you cannot have anything to do with his father while he is dating her but you are not stopping him from having a relationship with his dad although if I was you I would tell him you prefer for him to see his dad when she isn't around as you do not trust her one bit. I would also state that your father in law is welcome round to your home but only on his own, he must understand why you feel this way!! This woman doesn't sound like a nice woman at all, remember her last relationship with your ex didn't work and this relationship more then likely won't last either as it seems to me that she doesn't care who she hurts. Good luck hun!!
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reader, neomum  +, writes (23 July 2011):
nothing your father-in-law is an adult let him live his own life just stay out of it. you may not like this woman and you don't have to see her ever if your father-in-law asks you over say sorry i can't i'm busy and arrange a meet up somewhere in public just him you and your family no girlfriends, but you may have to explain to your husband why you no longer want to see your father-in-law when his new girlfriend is around. good luck
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reader, Ima FreAk! +, writes (23 July 2011):
 Hiyaaaa,
Firstly don't play fire with fire because y'all get burned!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So don't try to get her back by whatever means because you're just gonna end up hurting yourself mostly. So keep your conscious clean!
Honestly, what kinda things does she do in particular if you don't mind me asking?
Just ignore her don't tell her who you're dating and if she finds out whatever is going on in your life don't provoke her in any way coz she might go crazy and ruin your life.
The best thing I can say is just leave her alone and don't think of her or my favourite thing to do in the world coz its a double bonus is "kill her with your kindness".
That can really piss of someone but keeps you clean at the same time, like be extremely nice to her (honestly be really nice to her) and you know just kill her with your kindness, invite her to your house, talk about loads of things your life, bombard her with your life, keep calling her, text her drive her crazy!!!!!! Be her new best friend and hopefully she will leave you alone!
Hope my advice helps!
Good luck!
Lots of love,
Ima FreAk!
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