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writes:I don't know what to do. My gf gets mad whenever I don't agree with her. She looks at it in a disloyal way although I'm just trying to say my opinion. I told her, if she wants to be with someone who always agrees on her opinion, she should just get with someone else. Besides that, she's always making me feel guilty for saying my opinion. I think I'm just gonna break it off with her because being treated like that isn't right, right? She also insults me by saying I'm the most unintelligent person she's ever been with and none of her exes would have disagreed. What do you guys think on that?
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reader, karen1989  +, writes (17 July 2010):
 Having a girlfriend/boyfriend is supposed to make a person happy,not the opposite-if shes not making you happy then you have no reason to stick around,leave her.
She sounds controlling and like she has a bad case of low self esteem. Shes treating you this way because she knows she can get away with it, don't let her. Shes putting you down for having an opinion almost acting as if your opnion doesnt matter and you should just agree with her views and opinions. Theres plently of nice girls out there-drop this arrogant,stubborn chick and find someone worth loving.
Good luck :)
Karen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2010): I think you know already know this isn't the way you want to be treated. Nobody wants to a girl friend they have to agree with just to keep them happy, or one that is damn right nasty.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (8 June 2010):
 sentence...damn sticky keys..I blame all the funny aunts/uncles.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (8 June 2010):
She'll be cutting your meat for you before you know it. Let her go so she can find her Caspar Milquetoast. Either that or get used to saying "Yes dear" every other senteence.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (8 June 2010):
 This is the reason I only date men who are smarter than my ex'es
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (8 June 2010):
 All you do is tell her that if it's a Yes-man she wants she'll have to go on without you. If she can't respect your ability to stand your ground and speak your mind, then move on. I'd tell a woman the same thing. NO ONE can control your mind if you don't allow it. *YOU* set the standard for how you're treated in a relationship. So set a standard.
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reader, raiders +, writes (8 June 2010):
 She behaves like this because she knows she can get away with it. Put a stop to it man up to her. If she can't stop than simply leave her. You can do better way better.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (8 June 2010):
 she sounds nasty and bullying- get out now. anyone that puts me down is shown the door pretty soon.
you can do better
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reader, Dekten  +, writes (8 June 2010):
It sounds like she's in conflict with what she wants.
If all her exes are the agreeing type, then maybe that wasn't what she was looking for, right? After all, they're exes.
It seems to be that your mind is already made up rationally, but you need that extra little push? Based on what you're telling, she seems like an emotional control freak. Let her go, you CAN get better.
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reader, Hippieman182 +, writes (8 June 2010):
 You shouldn't be with a person like that...she should be grateful to be you in the first place... she seems like a total bitch and you orta be rid. A person who doesn't let you have your own opinion and also calls you ' the most stupid person she's been with' what kind of relationship is that for you. You deserve better.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (8 June 2010):
 Ouch!! Sorry but your gf is controlling and nasty! Seems that she thinks you dont need to have an opinion! And if she thinks you are not the most intelligent person then WHY is she with you.
You dont deserve to be treated like this rather find someone who will value you and value your opinion and be grown up enough to accept that!
Honeygirl
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (8 June 2010):
I would definitely leave her. She sounds like she's got a screw lose somewhere in her head. Let's face it, she has plenty of other ex's who all clearly disagreed since they moved on. Get away from this woman.
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