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reader, Moviefan  +, writes (9 January 2008):
 Im a guy and even thought im never had sex and ive heard stories about how condoms can make sex less pleasurable. Im still planning on making sure i wear one my first time, as well as make sure she is on the pill and that i pull out as long as she has already came. Im ready to have a kid emotionally and otherwise its just i dont want to have kids until im in mid to late 20 at the least and then you dont have to worry about the nasties as well when wereing a condom..
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reader, sxcbabiegal  +, writes (8 January 2008):
 Maybe your girlfriend just wants to be extra careful and yes be aware of sti's they are very dangerous. its natural 4 a guy 2 want 2 not wear a condom it interups ur sexaul activities .. i didnt mind my bf not wearing a condom because i have the implant but no contraception is 100% safe so maybe you should just respect the fact that your girlfriend doesn't want to end up pregnant or with a disease
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (8 January 2008):
 I suspect she's more concerned about getting a sexually transmitted disease from you, than being pregnant because the Pill protects her only from the pregnancy part. If you'd had any kind of sexual past, you could have a number of things that get passed on through sex without a condom. If you want to stop wearing one, you need to make sure your faithful to her, and go get tested for HIV, Hep-B and all the other dangerous STD's that are out there. Maybe she'll relax and let you stop wearing a condom as your relationship deepens.
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reader, CaliGurl +, writes (8 January 2008):
Yes I agree with everyone! She can still get pregnant on the pill. I am on the pill and my ex boyfriend was more than willing to wear a condom just to reassure us both.
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reader, BayAreaBoltBacker +, writes (8 January 2008):
My gf, even after 4 years, says the same thing. She had an abortion earlier in her life and doesn't want to ever experience it again. She is just being extra careful and I'm not sure there is any way to change it. I suggest just dealing with it, or finding a new gf.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2008): Be happy she still allows you to have sex with her. if my bf wanted not to wear a condom during sex and then was curious about why i made him wear one i would not stay with him for very long atall. get your priorities right. her and your safety or your pleasure?
WEAR A CONDOM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2008): You're not smoking DURING sex are you? I really hope the moderator got that heading wrong!!
She's responsible. I was conceived while my mother was on the pill. She's not ready to get pregnant. Be happy. SOme women trick men & say "I'm on the pill" when they're not, just to try & get pregnant.
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reader, Fionaisme  +, writes (8 January 2008):
 maybe because she doesnt want to get an std as the pill doesnt prevent against them. She is being responsible.
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (8 January 2008):
 Because she doesnt want to get pregnant the pil isnt 100% effective (nobody knows that better then me i was conceived while my mum was on the pill) and the pill prevents her from getting STI's just respect her wishes she is being responsible
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (8 January 2008):
 She is being responsable. The pill protects against pregnancy, but not against diseases. By making you wear a condom she is making sure you dont pass on any nasties to her and vice versa.
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