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writes:i was just wondering. well i have only had sex with 2 people and just six times between the two. but it took me a long time to actually agree to have sex with them because i didnt want to feel like we had to have sex everytime we were together or feel pressured to have it. When i did finally agree to have sex it seemed like it was an expectation to have sex everytime we were together or it seems to me like it disappoints them. I know men have a much higher sex drive then most women, but for me sex is not a necessity and i guess u can say i dont rele have a high sex drive and dont want to have sex all that often because im not sure if they are here for me or just for the sex.how do i decipher whether or not a man is with me just for sex or whether they really do love me like they say they do, but just like to have sex?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2008): Leave them for a while and see who they get with and how they react, just call it a break. If he asks why tell him the truth and if you know him well enough then you should be able to tell if he is lying or not. Anyway have a weeks break and then see how eager he is. If he immediatly wants sex then he is unfortunatly a bastad. do hope this will help you, stay strong and remember there are plenty more fish in the sea.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008): most guys will like to play around you just for sex.well, u will know if a guy is using you if he never talks to you about your future and whenever you have sex with him, he dosent ask you how you feel about it.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (9 January 2008):
 Most men will stick around just for sex. Hey, even bad sex. Just sex. And any sex is good sex. Women don't work that way. The big question is that you haven't found THE one yet that you actually want to have sex with and stay with one partner long enough to get into a good, satisfying sexual relationship. Trust me, when you are with someone that you want to have sex with, and you are satisfied in bed, you won't be asking about this! This comes from being with the one guy that you really love and sticking around long enough to get good at it! It comes from having a deep sense of trust and comfort that frees a woman to be herself and explore her sexuality. And trust me, if you've only had sex 6 times, you haven't gotten to the good stuff yet!
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reader, Moviefan +, writes (9 January 2008):
 If he only seems interested in you if there is a chance that sex could happen, and it isnt neccesarily true that if he tells his friends what happend that he only wants sex, i mean if a few of my friends had never done it or if she was really attractive i would end up saying something to them. Its not that im just interested in sex, i dont brag much but males like to brag..a lot...I try not to but i think i would have to unless the girl told me not to or seemed like she didnt want evryone to know, then i would respect that and not do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2008): I think it's best to date someone for a few months first before you sleep with them (maybe 2 or 3 months). That way they get to know the real you and will want to be with you for your personality rather than sex. If they wait for when you are ready they are not just interested in sex.
You'll know when he is using you if:
1)He will call over to you, have sex and leave straight after. Or ignore you afterwards...
2)He is not interested in going on dates with you such as cinema or a nice restaurant.
3)He will tell all his friends what ye got up to...
Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2008): Sex to men, is a big part of the relationship and most men would not stay with his partner if she refused to have sex. So I would say, date a guy for a few months before having sex with him. But don't expect him to not want it every time after you start giving it up. It won't last forever..eventually he'll only want it about half as often as he did, then even a little less. You should want to have sex with someone that you're in love with though, esp. in the early stages of your relationship. Maybe you should gt on some libido medications.
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