Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, missnatd03  +, writes (28 January 2008):
 even though you are only 14 im going to speak to you like the way i would speak to friends my age you have only been with this guy for 4 weeks try waiting for like 4 months or even longer i think you should explore eachothers bodys first to make sure that when you do lose your virginity to him or to whoever you are completely comfortable with him.
(:Hope i helped and good luck with your discission making:)
xox natalie xox
A
female
reader, mizzbrannon  +, writes (12 January 2008):
i think your boyfriend sounds very nice because he isn't pressuring you into anything. but i don't think you should lose your virginity with him. you guys have only been together for a month so i think it would be better to wait.
...............................
A
female
reader, baby11 +, writes (10 January 2008):
wait till you are older loosing your virginity is imp..you should do it with some 1 you love not with juss nay guy if he loves you he will wait..so juss wait till you are married or older cuz thats are most valuable treasure..make sure you make the right choice
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): losing your virginity can still be good even if its "shit" and hurts. would you rather go through pain with a caring guy who takes it gently and slow or go through pain with someone hu doesnt care how you feel only cares about getting off himself xthis guy sounds lovely but wait longer than 4 weeks yeah? xxxwhenever you feel completely ready no doubts
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): 1st; you are too young (its illegal untill your 16)
2nd; you are not emotionally or physicaly able to cope with sex at that age
3rd; dont let him pressure you into sex (if he dumps you he evedently didn't 'love' and care about you enough)
4th; don't lose it just for the sake of it (wait untill you are with someone you truly love and care about)
5th; you have only been 'together' for 4 months that is no where long enough to build a loving and trusting relationship with someone
GoodLuck xxx
...............................
A
male
reader, daletom +, writes (10 January 2008):
I think you made a wise decision. It's a strange paradox - the fact that you decided NOT to go ahead with sex actually shows that you are closer to being mature enough to have sex.
Your B/F may decide to break up because of this. That will hurt you, but it also tells you that he was primarily interested in the sex, not in YOU.
Or he may stay with you. In my circle of acquaintances are several couples (Hi John & Les, if you ever see this!) who met at 15 or 16 years old and now have satisfying marriages of several decades. Even they say that what they felt at 15 or 16 was NOT the kind of love to build a marriage on, but it eventually grew into that. I know that at least one of those couples waited until they were much older to add sex to their relationship. I don't know if they would say it was a good idea to wait, but it obviously wasn't a bad idea!
...............................
A
female
reader, Jules22 +, writes (9 January 2008):
Jules22 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks guys. i will definatley take your advice!!!! i really wasnt sure but as 4 of you have said pretty much the same thing i now know that i will regret it later!! i din't think i believe in waiting for marriage until sex but i will definately wait until i have sex.
Thanks alot!
J
XXXXXXXXXX
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2008): hey hun! sounds like ur boyfriend is like every other guy..take it from me.. im 15 years old.. and i'm still a virgin. don't feel ashamed of that. it makes you special. and i know its really hard to keep it that way but its sumthing for your HUSBAND to receive on ur honey moon. don't do sumthing your gna regret in the long run sweetie. think about it .. its only been 4 WEEKS and hes tryng to manipulate you already? NO! you may really like him but theres plenty of guys who appreciate that quality in a girl
good luck breaking it to him!
...............................
A
male
reader, daletom +, writes (9 January 2008):
You are NOT ready! It sounds like your B/F mostly wants to run up a score. Even at your age there are plenty of ways to give him pleasure without actual intercourse, though I don't think you should be doing those, either.
Look at the thread "Scared about Sex for the first time. Can you help?" at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/scared-about-sex-for-the-first-time-can.html and the thread "Is it ok to wait til your 18 to lose your virginity or do anything sexual?" at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-it-ok-to-wait-til-your-18.html for more thoughts.
...............................
A
female
reader, Jovial  +, writes (9 January 2008):
 You are still too young! the fact that loosing your virginity to him is so questionable its an indication that u are just not ready and believe me it will be far from special. enjoy your life doing what is legal for kids your age and stop thinking of messing your life. Yes I understand your 'predicament' but I been there and believe u dont want to be there.
...............................
| 