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writes:I started dating this new guy and im recently separated and pregnant. The baby is certainly the new guys. I cant stand pregnancy because I get so fat. plus its summer too. The guy that father my child has four other children and four different mothers. My husband and I talking about getting back together. What is your advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2010): Let me clear a couple things up. I know what birth control is. I just wasnt expecting to get pregnant because i havent been in six years, The last time, I gave birth. The doctors really messed up on me. So they said that I couldnt open a case unless i cant get pregnant again. My husband and I never used any form of protection and I havent been pregnant in six years.Futhermore new guy takes care of his kids and mine. This is just an unplanned pregnancy, I would love the baby. Abortion is a thought I just cant see myself doing it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2010): would abortion be out of the question? i know many people will be against this idea but u dont sound to thrilled bringing up this baby. i mean, a child shouldnt be brought in a loveless family. im not saying that u will be loveless, dont get me wrong, but it def sounds ahrd to bring up a child when u plan on getting back with ur husband and who comes from a guy u have broken up with. ive seen many cases similar to this one and the mothers feel resentment/indifferent/ apathetic towards their kids who consequently end up growing up with a lot of emotional issues.
anyway having a kid will also cost u economically and this guy doesn exactly sound like the father of the year (from what uve described). so please keep ur options open. u should really think about it cause there is also a chance that ur husband will not accept it.
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reader, UncleDoug +, writes (2 April 2010):
Hi,
There is an old adage - You reap what you sow. The most important foundation on which to build a long-lasting relationship is HONESTY. This situation will test you and your husband's devotion to one another and resolve to this marriage. If you can survive this your marriage will be all the stronger for it. If however your husband reacts badly and does not wish to re-establish your marriage, the best thing you can do is give him space and time to consider whether he loves you more than he dislikes raising someone else's child. Either way the decision is his and he should be able to make an "informed" decision.
Good Luck.
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (2 April 2010):
 ummmm....let's see by your admission you can't stand being pregnant - has it ever occurred to use birth control while engaging is sex. Use of effective contraception usually results in NO UNWANTED PREGNANCY. That being said. I would seek an abortion. Do you really want a baby with a guy that you just met who has four other children with four other women. You and that kid will always be in competition for his time and money (if he even has any). Unless you current husband is a complete saint do you think he will raise that child as his own. You have a lot to think about. In the mean time get on some effective long term birth control!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 April 2010):
Sit down by yourself, or with a counsellor, and go through exactly what you want from your life. You need to think very carefully about where you are right now. You're pregnant, and that needs to be your first priority. Do you want to keep it or not? Then decide what you want in terms of relationships. Sit down and think very carefully.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2010): hi im christina.
your in a tough situation, heres my advice keep the baby and get back with your husband. but let the baby daddy see the child of course =]
hope i helped
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