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Was that a form of verbal abuse that I went through?

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Question - (3 November 2009) 4 Answers - (Newest, 3 November 2009)
A female South Africa age 41-50, anonymous writes:

i was in a relationship with a guy for 7 months, and when the relationship started it was all good he would talk nicely well a week after talking he wanted to meet up for coffee i said we can. We spoke for long and after dropping me off he asked if we can meet often because he really likes me, i said we can because i liked him to the very same week he started asking me to sleep with him and i kept saying no. One day out of the blue he says that he never slept with his ex she might say they did but we didn't i didn't think that or thought of asking that. When we went out again for coffee i told him honesty is very important and since we were getting serious i told him i was in 2 relationships before him the first was for 3 years immediately he accused me that i slept with my ex's if i was in a relationship for 3 years i must have he said i said no never. It all felt to me that he wanted me to say i did when i never so he could have sex with me, he would fight with me everyday and call me a bitch a prostitute and then apologise i take him back then he would verbally abuse me and accuse me again i tried breaking off and he would threaten me to hurt my family was that a form of emotional and verbal abuse i went through please help?

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A female reader, AnneLG United Kingdom +, writes (3 November 2009):

Definitely abuse. I think he may become physical as soon as he get more used to you. If he's threatening your family, he is certainly capable of beating you up.

Get help to get out. Get a brother/cousin/friend to confront him and say you want nothing to do with him. If you need to, get help from a youth worker who would know exactly how to help you. That's what we're there for.

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A female reader, Honeygirl South Africa +, writes (3 November 2009):

Honeygirl agony auntThis man is an abuser and yes he was abusing you. You dont need this kind of kak in your life.

You need to get this man out of your life before it escalates into physical violence.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2009):

Yeah I would say that is verbal abuse. He was name calling you and cursing at you for no reason. He had no right to call you a slut, even if you had had sex with your previous boyfriends, that doesn't make you promiscuous. Im happy for you that you got away from this horrible self centered person. Sounds like all he did want was sex.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (3 November 2009):

Yes, it was. And it wasn't just a form of abuse, it WAS abuse. You need to get away from this man as quickly as possible and never allow him into your life again.

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