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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:me and my boyfriend want to have sex, im not on the pill or anything and neither of us have got condoms. he said he could put it in then take it out when hes about to come, but i dont know if thats okay or not.what is the best thing to do?
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reader, Miamine +, writes (16 January 2011):
 Stop being silly.. you will get pregnant this way.
Condoms are free in the UK, if you think your old enough to have sex, your old enough to protect yourself. Men that can't be bothered to buy a condom find it difficult to provide money for a newborn baby.
Your doctor will give you condoms free, or you can get free condoms or contraception from the Family Planning Clinics or even some chemists.
NHS Direct 0845 4647
The Family Planning Department have special resources for dealing with teenagers and will not judge or lecture you. They will tell you everything you need to do to stay safe when having sex. If you continue to have unprotected sex it's because you want to be a mother. Condoms and contraception are free, so you have no excuse.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): It's not reliable. It's how I got pregnant last year and if pregnancy is not something you want or can handle at this point in your life, then please, please use some kind of protection.
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reader, comeonjesusthishurtstoomuch  +, writes (16 January 2011):
 i agree and i am living proof that the pull out method is faulty he is 8 i wouldn't give him back for anything but wish i was older and std's are very scary alot of them you can't get rid of with a pill be careful
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): the local convenience store sells condoms. If your guy is unwilling to wear one then he's selfish. But that is not fail safe re pregnancy. Condoms are good at preventing sexually transmitted diseases. If you want to prevent a pregnancy then you do need the pill.
Visit or contact the nearest Family Planning Clinic. Urgently.
Otherwise your options are celibacy or start preparing the baby nursery.
Millions of babies are born around the world every year as a result of reliance on the INEFFECTIVE pull out method.
In the olden days women who never used any form of contraception would sometimes gave birth to 15 or 17 or 19 children. I once saw a family tree from 1800s where the woman had 27 children (first at 15, last one - she died giving birth, the poor woman)
Be thankful that today we have access to effective contraception. Now all you need to do is to start using effective contraception.
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reader, Learner.uk +, writes (16 January 2011):
 Hi, dont let him do that to you, you are at so much risk of sti's and you can still fall pregnant which im sure you dont want, loads of online sex advice out their on the net, read up and gain some knowledge on the do's and dont's. All the best.
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reader, Fabulosa +, writes (16 January 2011):
 No I is not reliable. There is pre-cum ( not to be confused with pre-ejaculation) it is a clear liquid and it DOES contain sperm. So even if he has person perfect accuracy you might get pregnant.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): I want to ride down niagra falls. Almost every one that does this ends up dead so I will go over in an oil drum while I hold a pillow on my head. That ought to do it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): I don't think you should be having sex at all going by what little knowledge you have but if you do, either get on birth control or use condoms.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 January 2011):
No. Not even close. His precum has sperm in it and could get you pregnant. Don't even risk it.
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (16 January 2011):
 Oh I would also like to add...
You CAN get pregnant on your first time
You CAN get pregnant if you do it standing up
You CAN get pregnant if you do it whilst on your period
You CAN get pregnant if you use the pull out method.
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (16 January 2011):
Did you not go to any of your sex education lessons?
A teenage boy will not have the control to "pull out" in time. He will also get VERY excited and secrete a lot of pre-cum which can also contain sperm, so either way, you will end up pregnant.
The only way to protect from pregnancy is condoms, the pill or other forms of contraception.
Condoms can be obtained FREE as dmartin says or you can go to a shop and BUY them. Or public toilets. Or a chemist. As long as you are both 16, (the LEGAL AGE OF CONSENT IN THE UK) then everything is fine.
Bottom line, if you are not grown up and mature enough to be able to go and either buy condoms, or go to the doctor and get yourself put onto the contraceptive pill then you are not mature enough to have sex.
Sex = babies if you dont use contraception.
What is worse, buying condoms, or ruining your life.
Your choice.
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reader, Battista +, writes (16 January 2011):
What genuine reason have you got for risking unprotected sex simply because you don't have condoms? Seriously....you know that you can get them for nothing from family planning clinics if you don't want to spend the money. Don't take the risk simply because you can't be bothered to get hold of some contraception.
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reader, dmartin89 +, writes (15 January 2011):
 A resounding NO.
This is NOT ok.
Go to a sexual health clinic and get free condoms, they will give you a bag of 20+. It only takes 5 minutes to prevent a problem that could cause a lifetime of distress.
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reader, DanceInTheDark  +, writes (15 January 2011):
 The pullout method is incredibly unreliable. His precum could get you pregnant, and I doubt the teenage boy has the self control to pull out.
Buy condoms, talk to your parents about getting on the pill.
You don't want to end up with a baby at your age, do you?
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