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writes:My sister is going to a local college. We are very very close and even her leaving to go to college 20 minutes away and stay on campus was terribly difficult for me and i cried myself to sleep for about 2 weeks while she was moving in, and after she left. Recently she announced that she is going to be attending college in Australia next year. I live in the United States so this is a huge shock. I can't imagine life without her and not seeing her ever. She is going to finish our her last 3 years there and maybe even live there. Just thinking about it brings me to tears and i cant get the subject off my mind. I feel like i want to distance myself from her and cut her out of my life completely so it will be easier for me when she leaves in the fall. I can't stand losing my sister, and my best friend so i think the best option is to distance myself and stop our sister bond/relationship whatever you want to call it completely. Is this a good idea and if not what would you do if you were in the little sisters shoes??
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reader, Kilcardy +, writes (16 January 2011):
Sweety, life is long. Please...listen to me....do not distance yourself from your sister. Show her all of the love you possibly can before she goes away. Yes you will miss her, but that's a part of life. It's not all rainbows and kittens 24-7 (sorry to burst your bubble). So, while your sister may be far away, you can still hold her in your heart. And, in this day and age you can see her practically everyday and talk with her -- the wizards in Silicon Valley have seen to that. Why, we have text, email, and Skype! Yes, you can see your sister daily even though she's still so far away. We also have these big things called "airplanes" that fly people all over the world! Even to Australia! I know, I'm being cheeky, but the point is, there is no point to hurting your sister because she is living her life. The best advice I can give is for you to love her, love her, love her before she leaves and let her know that you are blessed to have her in your life. She's not dumping you, she's simply going to school. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2011): Wait so to spare your feelings, you're going to throw away what little time you have left with her while she's still here?
That's not going to work, it will just make the pain worse. Firstly you will lose your sister while she's here and you'll be in worse pain that way because before you know it she'll be gone and you will have blown the last chance you have to spend lots of time with her.
What if something were to happen to her over there? (Touch wood nothing will) How would you feel knowing that you shunned her while she still lived here? The last few weeks/months you had left you threw away because for some reason you thought you'd be less upset.
Honestly even if nothing were to happen and she just left, you would seriously regret doing that to her, she would be gone and the time you had left you wasted. Instead of trying to make the most of out it you distanced yourself and you will never get that time back.
No matter what you do, her leaving is going to hurt but you should at least make sure that you gave her a fantastic send off. That while she was still her you gave her all your time and had some fantastic experiences and moments to cherish with her. You should be trying to think of ways of spending quality time with her and making beautiful memories. Not trying to avoid her and spending time alone, away from her in a time that could be your last with her. You just never know what will happen in the future but you can make sure now is the best time of your life. Don't throw that away out of fear, you might never get a chance to be close to her again, don't throw that opportunity away.
It makes no sense.
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