Porn, relationships, and confidence of women today.

A female age 30-35, qpwoei writes:

Okay, so i'm just going to talk about relationships and porn and let me know your opinions on what I have to say, if you're a woman that doesn't mind her man looking at it then fair enough but don't come ranting how us women who aren't are stupid...So heres the thing with porn, men say there's nothing sexier than a woman with confidence. Then men go and watch porn, and look at image after image of glorified women. We find out what they look at when we're not around, and our confidence is taken away. How can men expect us to feel confident when we don't have glorified bodies like the images that they search for? Are we suppossed to respond like "Oh that's okay darling, I understand you need to look at women with better bodies than mine, but I guess you love me so i'm flattered?!" Maybe men do 'need' to look at naked pictures of women to pleasure themselves while their lady is not around, I'm not denying that, but do they 'need' to look at pictures of glorified women that look nothing like their partner? No, that is what they choose to look at, and we're supossed to be secure and confident? Why can't they look at average bodies, that's what's in their biological instincts, not plastic women. Cosmetic surgury has not been around forever, yes it's in mens blood to look at other women, but now the kind of women that men are brainwashed into looking at are fake (or what they may consider perfect who knows) I was with my boyfriend for 2 years. I was always confident about my body, not at all insecure, until recently when I found out what my boyfriend had been searching for on the internet whenever I was away, and I gave him sex practically every night, so there was no excuse. Then he says that i'm insecure and need to be more confident, and I look at him as if to say, are you for real! I had to break up with him, because he doesn't sexually arouse me anymore. He can't turn me on, not one bit, because I see all these images in my head. He really turns me off now and no matter how he touches me it doesn't do nothing for me. I admitted this to him, and told him that now when I masturbate, I no longer think of him, but I have to search for images of men on the internet to pleasure myself. He broke down crying and got very offended and upset and angry. And he told me that I needed to be more secure? He did not like the taste of his own medicine, and he's possibly turned me from being bisexual, to lesbian! So just to let you men know, if your partner doesn't like porn, and she finds out you watch it, you are probably going to turn her off and she may start having to use her imagination instead of thinking of you. My intension was not to look at images of men to spite my boyfriend, he actually drove me to it because of all the things he looked at, I simply wasn't attracted to him anymore, but to see his reaction when I told him was surprising after how he expected me to just deal with it when he did it to me. So my advice to any woman out there that is feeling bad from their man watching porn and looking at other naked women, even if you're not at the stage were you don't find him attractive, do it anyway, look up images of glorified men, accidently let him discover it, then see his reaction. Only then will he understand how it feels to have his confidence taken away from him. So what do you all think of this?

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