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writes:Hi :)Right, heres the deal, there was a guy I met when I went out with a friend from uni, he lives in her halls, we got talking and just had a spark, you know one of those people who you can just talk to for hours? Well, we did, for around 4 hours on facebook, it was so good, the conversation just kept flowing. We texted for a few days, but then I heard nothing from him for 2 weeks. He started texting me again and I then saw him again on a night out, in which we were both very drunk, and kissed. I went back to his, to go fridge raiding and I went home a few hours later. We were then talking on facebook a couple of days later and I got convinced to come round to watch a film, we kissed again but nothing else happened, I got really confused as the things people have said about him come across like he is a player, and even I agree with that, but I don't know what to believe when he told me about how much he loved his girlfriend of 2 years, and how heartbroken he was when she cheated on him, he went on a bit of a rampage and went through numerous girls, and I think he has kept to that since then. I went round again on pancake day and had a massive fight, all my clothes are ruined but I had so much fun I don't even care! We started having these really deep conversations and he's said that he never would tell people these things, even when I was talking to his friend he says that he never has texted anyone as much as he texts me, and that he's always the one that plays girls, but it's like the other way around with me because I won't give in that easily like so many girls do with him. We have so many things in common it's scary. I just don't know whether a player like him could actually stop for someone like me? I don't give in with guys that easy, but then again I have such bad judgement, but surely not every single guy is a liar? I can't figure him out and I don't know what to do because I keep trying to convince myself to stop having feelings, to stay the one thats "not bothered" but I don't think that I can anymore.To know how I'm feeling, the song "I won't say I'm in love" pretty much says it all, the whole situation is basically the same.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2010): But what if he is being genuine? What if you just accept that He is a player and walk away? You could be turning your back on your chance at happiness? Give him a chance. I came across this Latin saying about 3 years too late, after not giving a guy a chance, after taking other peoples advice and I think about him every single day and regret it.'Perfer et obdura, dolor hic tibi proderit dim olim'. Be Patient and be tough; some day this pain will be useful to you'. It is worth finding out?
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reader, weparley  +, writes (27 February 2010):
A playa isn't going to change for NO female. To even think that sound ridiculus
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 February 2010):
Literally millions of women have asked the same question as you. 'Can a player change for me?'. And all those women have made the same mistake of thinking that they will, only to end up hurt. He has told you everything you want to hear. How he was 'hurt', and went on a rampage. Both classics. Don't fall for it.
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