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writes: i am female of age 20. i am in love with man who is married and has three kids. he love me first and put proposals. i refused and said its not good. then he said me he cannot live without me. he will die, but still he says me he wants his family as well as me. when i talk him to leave his family otherwisw I'll leave you, he gets upset. he says he want both of us. i am in so deep in his love. neither i can leave him now nor i can adjust because i dont want him to love anyone else except me. please give me suggesstion what shall i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (13 May 2011):
 Nonsense. Of course he will NOT die if you leave him- which, in a way, it's sort of a pity, because the planet would be a better place without sleazy married men taking advantage of the inexperience of girls like you.
And of course you CAN leave him, who is stopping you ?!
You don't WANT to leave him, because you don't want to suffer. Ok, it makes sense. But, tell me : are you happy now ? Do you like sharing him with his wife and kids ? Will you be happy , forever being his dirty little secret , and coming second after his wife and family that he is never going to leave ?... I really don't think so.
So, since you are going to suffer anyway, might as well suffer now and gain back your dignity and moral integrity.
And the possibility to get yourself a man who 's yours only !
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (13 May 2011):
 The only solution is for you to be brave and leave him, for good. I know you love him and feel like you cant leave him, but you have no future with this man and there is nothing left for you to do but leave. He has his happy little family, and then you on the side for a bit of fun - he does not love you, care about you or respect you otherwise he would not have done this to you. He is a cheater, a liar and an awful example of a man.
Think about his 3 children, can you imagine how sad and upset they would be if they found out their daddy was having an affair? Do you really want to be part of destroying the happiness of 3 children? Because the longer you allow this to continue, the more you are hurting these innocent children.
All you have to do is walk away and never contact him again...you dont even need to talk to him to tell him it is over. He is such an awful man that he doesnt deserve any kindness from you, really you should leave him and his family should leave him too, he deserves to be alone and suffer for the hurt and pain he has caused you and his family.
Be strong and leave, dont allow him to use you anymore and dont allow yourself to be part of his games. You can do much better than him, there are plenty of men out there who will love you and only you. But this man is not capable of love, he is only capable of lies and hurting people. Leave him and move on, find a better man and be happy. You will never be happy with this man in your life, so get out now while you can.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, IAMDONE  +, writes (13 May 2011):
Oh my darling, you have fallen prey of a married man and you are caught up in his web. I am so sorry that you have such an issue to deal with.
First of all, married men are off limits!!! There is nothing a married man can offer you other than sex and a little cash. He has nothing else to give...he can not give you devotion, committment, and a healthy relationship because he is emotionally and legally married to another woman.
He has made it quite clear to you that he wants his wife and family and you too. Believe me, he has no intentions of leaving his wife. He is very much in his glory having you and his wife.
He does not love you first in spite of what he tells you. He loves his wife first because he proposed to her and married her. He loves her first because she is the mother of their children. He loves her first because they have established a home together. He loves her first because she is the woman that he knew before you...
He will die if he does not have you in his life...did he live before he met you? Does he live when he is not in your presence? He survives and he will survive when you are no longer in a relationship with him. In face, the cold truth is he lives well and is in his glory when he kisses his wife, makes love to his wife, and when he provides a livlihood for his wife and family. I know that sounds so hard and cruel but it is the absolute truth.
Since he will continue to love his wife and children and have the desire to be with them, then you know there is no room for you. Oh yes, he will have the time to come by and spend a little time with you and then go home to his wife and live with her as her husband who is very much in love.
It is time for you to get out of this terrible relationship and let the selfish bastard go...he has entered your life and created so much havoc and created a relationship with you that will never work because he is married and had a family that he loves.
You are a young woman and it is time for you to get your life together by getting away from this no good son of a b...he mean you no good and you will always be upset and want him all to yourself and that will never happen. HE IS MARRIED AND LOVES HIS WIFE AND CHILDREN AND WANTS YOU ON THE SIDE FOR WHATEVER REASON...let him go. You will get over him in due time and stay away from married men...they are off limits. Get away as soon as possible.
You will be better off...Goog Luck!
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