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writes:Hi,I have been seeing a girl for 7 months now, and we are both in love. But recently we have been arguing again and again, nearly every time we are together. I don't know what to do, i dont think im happy anymore, but she has had a hard time her whole life and has repeatedly said that i am the only good thing in her life. i love her but i dont think its working right now, because we are not getting on. im also skeptical whether or not she loves me. she had a male friend in work who was attempting to break us up, and told her and his friends that he loves her. She tells me everything that happens, but even though they dont work togethere anymore, she still has lifts from him in college and talks to him, even though i have told her how much i want her to stay away from him and how much i hate him. im just so confused right nowwhat should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2007): What are the good points of this relationship? Sit down and write them down, putting pen to paper can often help. Have a chat with her and tell her exactly how you feel. Let her know that the arguing has to stop or you are gone! Tell her, not us, i'm sure you can work something out. If not, then you two are not ment for each other. Just walk away. Life is too short to be going through all of this hassel. If there is someone else in the background, that she gets lifts from and says they like her, then get that sorted out with her. Ask her to stop it, if she wants you two to get along. But seriously, i think that you know the future and it isn't with her. Don't prolong the agony, have that chat and move on.
Take care
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2007): What are the good points of this relationship? Sit down and write them down, putting pen to paper can often help. Have a chat with her and tell her exactly how you feel. Let her know that the arguing has to stop or you are gone! Tell her, not us, i'm sure you can work something out. If not, then you two are not ment for each other. Just walk away. Life is too short to be going through all of this hassel. If there is someone else in the background, that she gets lifts from and says they like her, then get that sorted out with her. Ask her to stop it, if she wants you two to get along. But seriously, i think that you know the future and it isn't with her. Don't prolong the agony, have that chat and move on.
Take care
xx
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reader, lamo  +, writes (12 March 2007):
 you sed you dont feel happy if you dont then take a break but make sure you tell ya girlfriend that it is just a break not a break up. ask her if she does love you and watch her body when you ask her to see if you can get any clues in the way she acts. tell her that this male mate is making you feel the way you do but at the end of it you got to trust her. you tell a kid not to do something when your back is turned they r going to do it. so if you tell her not to talk or see this guy she only going to do it behind your back. If she is tell you what going on between them then your going to have to go with it unless you got good reasons to stop it.
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reader, Bella55  +, writes (12 March 2007):
The fighting and arguing is a result of insecurities, jealousy and frustrations. I think you both need a break here. Let her know that youre not going to stand for this kind of behaviour. Let her know that it is causing doubts about her feelings, and her respect. And then give it some space. These fights are obviously not getting you anywhere, and it gets more constant if youre going around in circles, not been able to sort them out.
Take a break, put your energy towards another part in your life, if youre meant to be, she will realise what shes doing and she will give up her bad behaviour. Believe me, your mind is a poerful thing, reconsider your thoughts and you will attract positivity within her and yourself. Get yourself out of thi srut, the only way to do that is to break the pattern. Even if its for a week, take a break from her and this relationship.
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