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*mmaxlouise2011
writes:ive been with my boyfriend for just under 2 months, and when i was over his i noticed on his phone and computer he has porn like pictures of him and his ex and a photo of her on his bedroom wall. so i gave him time to delete them etc. but he didnt so i told him how it was bothering me so he said he would delete him, and he deleted them from facebook, not sure if there on his computer on phone still though, and there still on his bedroom wall. Also at the weekend i saw him check her emails on her email account, why is he doing this? and what can i do? what can i say? its really getting to me
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (19 May 2010):
 He is not over her. My suggestion would be to leave. This is also unhealthy behavior which dirtball has mentioned.
You don't deserve this kind of treatment from your boyfriend!
Good Luck!
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reader, The Great Mark Says  +, writes (19 May 2010):
 well bluntly i dont think he has gotten over his ex yet. this is a red flag. i really dont think he is ready to date yet. and if hes not ready or willing discard pics of his ex like that. then you need to rethink dating him. sorry to hear about it, good luck thou
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (18 May 2010):
 I have to agree with the ladies here; he's still into her if she's on the wall. In an album tucked away, fine. On the wall after you specifically told him that it bothered you? Not so fine.
And going through her emails on her account? That's seriously creepy.
I'd probably rethink the whole boyfriend/girlfriend thing with him right now. Tell him you'll consider dating him again once he gets over her, but for now, you'd prefer to be a guy's number one girl.
Good luck.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (18 May 2010):
 I think your boyfriend is still checking up on his ex, and perhaps in an unhealthy stalker-like way if he keeps pictures of her and hacks her email account! I would run away fast as he doesn't show you any respect and you are obviously just there to nurse his ego through the break-up.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (18 May 2010):
 Sorry, but it sounds like he's still into her. I agree that you should go out and find someone who will be totally into you instead of hung-up on an ex.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (18 May 2010):
 Yup, like MarieClaire said, he is still into her. Honestly I think you are "rebound-girl" :( Sorry, I would dump his ass.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2010): Sounds to me like he hasn't moved on. The fact that he has chosen not to remove the photo from his bedroom wall after you have told him how uncomfortable it makes you feel, shows he is not ready to be in a relationship with you. I'd ask him straight out whether he is over his ex or not. Be prepared, for you might not want to hear what he has to say.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (18 May 2010):
 He's obviously not over her. He should definitely not be checking her email accounts. That is stalker like behavior. I'd get out now. 2 months isn't that much of an investment. Ultimately, would you like him doing these same things with you? Because by his behavior, that seems like what he is into.
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