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writes:Well skool is really differnt now.. secondary skool is such a stressy time for everyone... like everyone changes nice to mean, happy to moody etc i have loads of friends in skool even da geeks one (but they were my first friends) in yer 7 they were very kind and accpet everything i tell them.. i trust them and they trust me specially about secrets but thts another story... (look into my page see whats it about)Then in the end of december i start to hang around with everyone dat gain me respect and other kids started to hang arouund with me... i felt guilty and happy at the same time coz i didnt even realise i left my other friends... Also nowadays all the other kids hated the geeks or nerds wotver u call them... i dont care... coz da other kids hates them sooo much! i dont kno wots rong wit teenagers these days!!!! they bully her and i feel soooo guilty... its jus sooo hard.. and now its gettin seriuos every time i talk to them da other kids says "Why are you talking to them ugly people" and i jus stay ther defenceless sayin noffin .... i dont join in da insults i jus say nothing at all...plz dont write any rubbish down that i should be ashamed of myself to left them out.... jus give my advice which one is right for me! plzzz.... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): Oh honey I was in exactly the same position. You get to secondary school and all of a sudden, it's like everyone has changed. I remember coming home from school every night and crying my eyes out for at least the first month I started there. I think it's best to have a wide range of friends, be friendly with the 'popular' kids, and also with your old friends. This way, everyone wins. If the so-called 'popular' kids don't like you talking to your old friends, then tell them that maybe they should try it, because they're nice people. Stand up to them, show them you have confidence, and then you'll find they'll accept you more. Otherwise, I doubt they'll be your friend if you're just another person that does what they say to do.
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reader, Aeval  +, writes (14 May 2008):
 Sorry Aunts and Uncles... I am not going to be nice here, Bullies all over the world are out of control and it's a terrifying thing for kids....leads into all sorts of nasty problems. I am sorry if I offend any of you.
Now to the poster!
Stop being a nasty weak person, how would you feel if it was you on the other end? you being called the nasty ugly one who can't spell? (you seem to have problems spelling words) hmmm Not very nice is it?
The ones who you know will be there for you and who you can trust are your real friends.... If you don't start standing up for your friend she may not want to be your friend after this is all said and done. Be careful teenage KIDS change their minds all the time, one moment you are popular the next not. I don't think that you actually deserve the "nerd" friends.
"everyone dat gain me respect and other kids started to hang arouund with me"... I have a question, how is it that anyone respects a person who won't stand up for a friend?
To coin a phrase...
" True friends are like diamonds, precious and rare, false friends are like autumn leaves found everywhere".
I hope for your sake you sort this out or you will be a very sad and alone person. Remember Bill Gates was once seen as a "nerd".
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reader, LittleMissInfo +, writes (13 May 2008):
 Hiya,
I went through exactly the same situation when i joined school. It has been 5 years now (i left high school TODAY) and i still think about that sometimes. I went from joining high school with the "geeks" as you say, to becoming popular. I have to admit, i liked the attention, but i still felt terrible because i left my true friends.
5 years later i can say that i made a group in the middle of these cliques. I didn't like the quilt, and i realised that deep down id rather be happy than popular.
I still remained popular but for the right reasons, i got along with everyone, no matter what group or clique they were in, and people respected me and liked me for that. i didn't leave anyone out, and i talked to everyone.
you dont have to stay with one particular group all the time, just make sure you dont leave anyone out.
But i definately dont like the fact that these so called popular kids (KIDS being emphasized here!) calling people ugly and telling you who you can and cant talk to! I think you should stand up for them. How would you like it if someone was saying that about you, and your best mate just stood by and let them? its horrible for your friends to do that to other people. They dont seem like very nice people. How can you trust them? i have met people like this in school, and id never tell them anything - they could turn on you in a flash.
Just think about what really matters.
Popularity... or happiness and true friends?
Think about it,
LittleMissInfo
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008): listen i know ur young but grow up a little take the popularity meter out of the equation..who do you get along with better?who do you think you can trust more?
me personally i mostly hung out with the "popular" kids however i had a few good friends that were not very popular at all and all my friends who were popular accepted that fact that i was friends with more then just one click...but to be honest these popular kids sound sortof like jerks to me...
-michael
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