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writes:i'm 42 and since january I've been taking driving lessons. my instructor is a lovely man. a brilliant instructor and a wonderful person, kind, gentle, considerate etc etc. we get on very well together and my lessons feel more like time spent with a good friend rather than paying a stranger to teach me to drive. he gives me compliments all the time and i started to think that there was chemistry between us and as a result i've developed a major crush on him. my problem is that i've decided that he doesn't feel the same way about me, but is just a nice friendly person. he has no idea how i feel, i know that i can't tell him while i'm still taking lessons, but do you think i should once i've passed my test?
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reader, lainey 78  +, writes (4 December 2009):
ive had the same ideas bout mine and i kept imagining chemisty . so he texted me one sunday bout a lesson and i started to flirt with him. he started flirting back i took the bull by the horn as im married and no longer love my husband and he wasent hard to coax i dont know what way things will turn out but im glad i did , try it and see if hes meant for you hel not pass you .failing a driving test has it very good points go for it cause if you dont youl always wonder lol xxx
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reader, Jayney Y  +, writes (29 September 2009):
 Invite him por a 'thank you' drink when you've had your last lesson. If he says no you'll know he's not interested, and if he says yes you'll be able to ask him about himself and find out whether he's married/involved etc. If he's single and interested he'll ask to see you again, and if he's single but not interested he wont. Simple as that. Good luck :)
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reader, PaigeAlexxandra  +, writes (28 September 2009):
 Dear Student Driver,
At 42, it's really kind of goofy to have a major crush; let's just say you're attracted to him like a mature woman would. So as a mature woman, there's no harm in ending your classes and then casually asking him if he'd like to go out for a drink sometime, or a cup of coffee. Very innocent question.
His answer will tell you whether you're about to make a fool of yourself by saying too much, (or drive him away by saying too much) and it will give you an idea about how he feels about you.
So go drink coffee and let the next step unfold naturally.
But the first step is NOT to confess your undying love; you don't know this already????
Alexx
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reader, old-spinstah +, writes (28 September 2009):
Find out whether he's married or not or whether he's in a relationship (if you haven't already) If he's not, ask him out for a drink/meal/coffee/delete as appropriate to celebrate once you've passed your test. The worst he can say is a simple no.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (28 September 2009):
 What do you really know about this guy? Does he have a wife and kids he goes home to after driving school is over for the day?
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reader, sammi star +, writes (28 September 2009):
 I agree that this is like a school girl crush. It's not uncommon to have a crush on your driving instructor and chances are if you got to know him outside of his profession you may not feel the same way at all. That said, you're 42 so if you want to tell him how you feel once your lessons with him are over, go ahead! Good luck x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (28 September 2009):
This is the same thing as a teenage girl fancying her teacher. Your his student and that's all. You've even said he doesn't feel the same way. It's just a crush, and once you've passed your test, you'd be better off moving on and finding someone else. There are other good guys out there. Remember, you've only seen this guy as a proffessional, not as a normal guy. There are differences. Find another guy. lots of luck.
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