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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years now and I am expecting a baby In December. Our life used to be great together, we would have so much fun and i felt so loved and cared for. We spent all of our time together and he treated me amazingly, always showing that he loved me. He lived with me and was so happy doing so. But recently all he wants to do is go out with his friends to clubs or pubs, go away for weekends and has also said he doesnt want to stay with me anymore. I feel so un-needed and unloved! He doesnt tell me he loves me anymore and never wants to spend time with me. Whenever I try and speak to him to tell him how I feel he just says dont be silly I do love you and I do care about you! But I really dont believe him anymore, he wont even hug or kiss me without me asking him. The only thing he will still do is have sex. Its really getting me down and I'm worried about depression and stress, especially worried about our baby. Please help.
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reader, bitch  +, writes (7 October 2009):
I am sorry you are feeling this way. ((Big hugs)) Either he might be scared of having this new responsibility and he thinks he needs to get all his fun stuff done prior to the baby coming or maybe he is just plain scared of responsibility. This is a huge responsibility. I think you both should get couple counseling to prepare yourselves for the baby and help him to see that his fears are natural. He may be trying to run from his "problem" and I say problem meaning that it is something he is feeling afraid of, not that your sweet baby is a problem because it is not, it is a blessing.
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (6 October 2009):
 You need to talk to him and explain how you feel. I know you tried already but if you can't get through to him I would reconsider your relationship with him.
Good Luck!
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reader, Al needs advice +, writes (6 October 2009):
Aw honey there is nothing good about the situation you are in. Congratulations on your baby and this is really where your focus needs to be as I am afraid your boyfriend is not going to be very helpful prior or post delivery. You need to get as much support as you can from family, friends and speak to the doctor about any concerns you have. I think you know this guy is not going to support you and his actions really do speak very loudly. The only way you can get through this is decide what you want, if he does not want to be with you and the baby then you can do nothing to stop that and believe me if he does wander off then he will keep wondering back when he needs somewhere to get his head down and for an sex. You are not in a good place, you are having a baby and you know he should be looking after you not hurting you. Please take care of yourself.
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reader, Melys  +, writes (6 October 2009):
 Ahh, you poor love!
As if your emotions aren't playing havok with you anyway cause your pregnant, and you don't need any added pressure!
I feels to me like you need to sit down with him and have a serious chat...maybe the thought of the responsiblity of a child has scared him. You really need to say to him how you truly feel and get some answers from him. Approach him in a calm and friendly manor...
Hope you can sort things out...good luck...
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