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writes:What do you do when you send someone a message saying you are inlove with them. And they don't even reply?And its not some random person. It's the father of your child? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2011): Poor you, you are very much in love with someone who uses you and only expresses emotion when drunk. It really is hopeless but until you realise this yourself you are going to be hurt again and again. I'm not surprised you did not get a response to your text, what is he going to say, as he doesn't feel as you do, or you would be very much a couple. It is very hard to stop loving someone, but try to think of it another way, there is bound to be someone out there who really will love you if you can be free and let them have a chance to meet you.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (8 January 2011):
I almost agree with the posts below until I saw your follow-up OP. Then I realized that the father of your child is just using you for sex and getting away with it. He comes over when he's been drinking, has his way, then goes away again.
Not once has he talked about getting back together - far from it, he's made it clear you won't
And even with your message, he's not responded.
I'm sorry, but I think you're totally wasting your time here. You're letting this guy come to you for sex when he's drunk, and then he goes away. He doesn't really want to work it out - he just wants the sex. You'd do better to ban him and really make an effort to move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2011): Well we havnt been together for awhile now. But we were still sleeping together. And hanging out. But it is strange because he seems to spend more time just me and him. Rather then come to see our daughter and just see me while he's there. And when he's been drinking he is all over me. And can be quite affectionate. But then when he isn't its abit different. He has told me in the past that he hasn't wanted to get back together. But within the last six mnths or so things have just seemed abit different with the way he is towards me.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (8 January 2011):
 It would depend, are you and he still involved, or planning a home together, a wedding, do you and he profess your love for each other on a regular basis
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are you no longer together, has he a new partner, have you argued recently, if you have broken up was it acrimonious or friendly,
is he the demonstrative sort, would it have embarressed him, or was he so taken with it he is now planning his very own spectacular declaratiion of love.
I'm sorry, but not knowing the background I dont know what you should do.
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reader, AuntyMaur +, writes (8 January 2011):
 I think its unfair of him not to reply.
It is disrespectful. Even if he isnt feeling the same way,a reply or contact should have been actioned sooner rather than later..these are real feelings, noone deserve to have them ignnored. A mature adult person would have phoned or made arrangments to visit to discuss things.
Men are known to disappear for a few days when they have things on thier mind...however you have declared your love and have a child.
There is not alot you can do - people will only talk when they are ready, sometimes people think if they ignore long enough the person will go away.
He obviously needs his space to think. Keep yourself busy.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (8 January 2011):
 He might be unsure of what to say. When you send something sincere and deep, expect to wait a while before the person in question replies. A week or so. Then you know it is sincere. If you feel it has been too long, you could always talk to him about it because, considering the child, this is important.
I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2011): Talk to them in person. A great many people have difficulty in composing letters/notes when the issue is of major importance.
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