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writes: Does anyone know a good dating site? I've tried several ones, and found none appealing. If any of you have had profiles that have been a hit, please let me know. Also, what is everyone's input on online dating? Does it work? Am I wasting time? Reply to this Question
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reader, natmarie  +, writes (13 July 2010):
 No you are not wasting your time"!! try 'plentyof fish.comGood luck!! Natmariexx
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (11 July 2010):
 If you are a reasonably confident, out-going type I would say you probably don't need to do the online dating thing as it can be very eroding on your soul. It maybe marketed by the dating sites as the cool, new, intelligent way to meet people but that is because they are making lots of money out of their business. The reality is that many (if not most) people using these sites have personal issues that prevent them from meeting someone in more traditional ways. The websites are also a good forum for liars, cheats and all sorts of psychologically unhinged people to manipulate others. The news is full of stories of bad things happening to people who met from social networking and dating sites. It doesn't mean it is impossible to find a decent relationship on these websites, but it is probably quite hard because you have to wade past the mad, the bad, the emotionally unavailable and the imcompatibles to get to the person you want. If you are looking for a relationship it maybe better to search in more traditional ways like through a friend of a friend, community or sporting venues, clubs or social events.
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reader, Logicgirl  +, writes (11 July 2010):
 I dont thing you should waste time with dating sites. Instead why dont you just start with taking a look around? It is better than dating in a virtual world. You will gain nothing and your precious time will be only wasted.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (11 July 2010):
 They are ok for multiple introductions and a few dates, but actually finding someone you 'click with' (I hate that term)and building a loving relationship still requires all the learning to trust,facing all the trials and tribulations and really working at it...Once the lust is out the way (because there is a lot of lust on the net)a good 99% just die away to nothing...and I agree with strontium, people are very picky, expect someone perfect to drop in their lap and don't give people a chance.
Try it and see what you think. Pay sites are generally better, but once they have you, it can get expensive and addictive. Maybe dabble with a free one, see how you like it and then go for something like Match.com.
There are no guarantees but nothing ventured...nothing gained.
A lot of sites offer a safety guide to meeting people, you should read it and stick to it...as there are some dodgy characters out there too.
Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you, as I couldn't have asked for more honesty :) I think the online scene is a dead cause for me, now that I think about it.
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