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writes:Hi,While I was camping a couple of years ago I slept in another camper tent. There are three double beds. My Cousin in one my other cousin in another and next to one of the beds is another one that my aunty and uncle sleep. I slept next to my cousing in the bed next to my aunty and uncle. I was woken by my uncle feeling my you know what. I think he was trying to make me get an erection.My aunty was outside haveing a fag and my cousins were asleep. even though I was awake I kept my eyes closed and hoped he would stop and he did. Nowadays he constantly looks at where my penis is when I talk to him and always wants me to kiss him.I am finding this really daunting and don't know what to do. I don't want to say anything in case I get bad reactions and my whole family turns against me.Can anyone help?
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reader, iknowwhatitfeelslike  +, writes (21 August 2010):
i know exactly what you feel like. when i am at my uncles house on the computer he will come behind me and put his hands slowly down my top, then into my bra, and start grabbing and touching my breasts. i have no clue what to do. i have told a couple of my friends, and they insist that i tell my mom, but they dont understand. its hard esspecially since hes my uncle. i feel hopless when i see him. its so weird. and i dont know what to do either.
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reader, Rbd lover  +, writes (6 December 2009):
OMG this is the same situation im in right thi minute my uncle is always harrasing me and telling me he wants to show me some porn movies and he touches my boobs and its so scary I dont want to say anything to my parents because I just dont know how they'll take it, so im very scared he will do something worse like try to rape me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): hello wiz thank you so much for writing that.same thing happened to me too very recently but wasnt a relative just what you call mucky old man. i phoned child line after reading your post and i glad i did. ok i hung up a few times then i spoke. i feel free and happy now. many many thanks sir for your and child line understanding stuff we dont wont to tell our families.
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reader, lamh23 +, writes (5 April 2008):
I feel that you should tell someone else BEFORE you confront him yourself. be aware that his actions are sick and dangerous; this could lead very easily to something much worse. On top of that, if he is allowed to get away with this behavior he may do the same to other people, and it is within your power to prevent that, not to put pressure on you but i know someone who had similar experiences at your age and now, aged 24, they are gutted that they didn't stop others being treated in the same way.
I agree that you should talk to your dad, if he's around, or pick another person you've known for a while. Teachers are great at stuff like this as they are very subtle and have the right contacts to stop things quickly and quietly without too many people finding out if you don't want them to. they will also tell your parents if you dont fell you can do it yourself. at the end of the day, dont let it go further, tell someone as soon as, dont let it ever happen again.
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reader, xxbaybeegal +, writes (5 April 2008):
 I do feel sorry for you
but the only thing to do is tell your parents
because this is your choice. if you dont want it to stop then of course dnt do nuffin about it
but in a way this is abuse so maybe calling profesional ppl might help
gd luck bbz
S4F3
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2008): You need to tell someone. You can't let things like this go on. I know that you don't want to split the family up but you can't let this continue.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2008): Why not tell your dad. Your dad is there to protect you, that is what dads do, that is their job.
Good luck
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reader, musics_muse +, writes (4 April 2008):
sweetie, this is just flat out wrong! that makes me so angry how adults can take advantage of children like this...don't be scared, tell someone about it! otherwise he might not stop...not only with you but with other kids as well...
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (4 April 2008):
 what this man is doing is WRONG!!! you need to tell him that what he is doing is making you really uncomfortable, he knows he is wrong and that if he doesnt stop you WILL tell someone. you dont have to tell your family, you can tell the authorities and they will take serious measures to make sure he doesnt do that to anyone else ever again. you cant let this continue, if you do, this behaviour may get more intense and worse. you know wat you should do, so make sure he knows that what he is doing is not going unnoticed by you. i hope this helps somewhat hun, good luck and email me if you wanna talk more about this xxx
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reader, x-kitycatlok-x +, writes (4 April 2008):
 There are a number of things you can do. If this makes you feel uncomfortable, tell your family. They're not going to care that it's your uncle! I'm sure they'll believe you if you really tried explaining. They're your family after all! You could also try kicking, punching, scratching and other such things if he comes near you again. I know this may seem bad, but he's sexually abusing you. This is illegal. If you need any help then call ChildLine about it. I did and it really helped. Don't let it get any worse. Talk to someone about it.
ChildLine is completely free. You can call them from a mobile and not get charged, and it will not show up on any phone bill. They are also completely confidential. You can also write to them using the address on their website.
Talk to someone. Anyone. Make it stop.
Wishing you the best.
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2008): if you havent already told him to stop you need to that because if he keeps persueing you after that he is a SERIOUS SERIOUS threat, also you need to tell someone you TRUST, regardless or whether that perosn is family or not, also, agreed, childline is a good idea too. this man is mentally ill you need to be on your guard and you need to discuss it with a mature, trustworthy adult about what to do. take care of yourself x
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2008): I understand what your going through and your scared but by my own expereience keeping something like this to your self is not good. Even though this is your Uncle Iwant you to know that he's totally in the wrong and he needs to stop or be stopped. If I were you I would tell your parents what happened they love you and want to protect you from people like this. It won't be easy to go through cause you do have people out there that don't understand but rememmbeer your the victim not him. To me this is a form of rape and rapist should be stopped just so you know I was rapped before to and asulted by family memmbers so I know where you are. And if you can't bring your self to telling your parents or a person of the law then stay away from this person at all costs he's dangerous. I hope this helps you. And know your not alone this has happened to many your age and younger and also know you didn't do anything wrong he did your the victim please keep this in mind cuz for the longest time I though that I was to blame and that I must of done something for themto do this to me but the bottom line is I didn't and neither did you there just sisck really sick. All the best and I hope you can tell your parents and let them help you and guild you and protect you.
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reader, goodlistener +, writes (4 April 2008):
Hello, There are many people that are in your position believe it or not, I certainly have been. The best advice I can give you is, if he says or does anything else tell him you know what he is doing is wrong. And warn him if it happens then you are not scared to tell your family. I know you feel that if you tell no one will believe you, but the best I can say is they will. Parents know that kids do not lie about stuff like this. You must do something before it gets out of hand. I kept quiet for 8 years when i was abused by my brother in law, but had to say something cos it happened to his daughter. What I am trying to get at is, this will happen to someone else and/or this could get worse for you. It might seem quite easy to deal with it now, but when you grow up these sort of things can distrub you within your life.
I hope some how this has helped. But remember your family will support you.
Let me know if I can help in any way.
xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2008): Tell your uncle this.....you are my uncle and the family loves you, but if you ever touch me sexually again or even look at my private area....I'm not only going to tell everyone in the family, but also report you to all the authorities as well as put your name, address and a picture of your face and car all over the internet, where the world would see who you really are.
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