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writes: Today is the first day in University, I can't get along with others. I'm so worried about that but good luck to me I have one new friend. She is friendly and very kind with everyone. After couple days, She has many friends everyone want to be her friends including me. But now she changes. She treats me coldly and when I see her with her friend. She gossips about something with her friend and glances me queerly. I don't know what I did wrong but it hurt me. I feel very awful as she is the only one friend that I have now what shoud i do ? Should I keep on associating with her or broke up.
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reader, Matt,20 +, writes (7 July 2005):
Friendships are very weird sometimes and never expect it to be good " all the way ", according to this girl, defenetely something may be up with her, but you should not even take it for granted, I mean, A UNIVERSITY ? girl, can you imagine how many friends you can make there ? , make new friends and defenetely do NOT break it up with her, Why? I can see no reason, rather meet new friends and let her come to you, instead of things around... In the end she is a friend, or atleast may be she was,but will always be, sooner or later she will admit that what she is doing is wrong, tell her once, she her response and in the mean time GET MORE FRIENDS AND MORE AND MORE AND MORE!!!! Wish you all the very best girl...Matt,20.
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reader, Helen05 +, writes (6 July 2005):
University is the best place to make friends. When i went i spent the first week trying desperatley to make friends, then the next three years avoiding the people i clung so desperatley to in those first few days.
Go to your lectures, find like minded people and do not let this girl upset you. She is the first of many people you will meet on your journey and you do not need to cling to her.
University is also a different environment to school. i had very few friends at school but i found that i had several when i was at uni. do not let your past experience make you feel that people will not like you, because that is not the case.
I sincerely hope you enjoy university. you do not need to let this two faced girl stop your fun.
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (6 July 2005):
 Ask her outright what her problem is and why she is being this way with you now.
I think it may be a waste of time trying to pursue a friendship with her as she seems somewhat two-faced and perhaps she just appeared to be really nice at the beginning so that she could make lots of friends.
I think you need to instead concentrate on making new friends at uni. Strike up conversations with other students in your classes. Join groups who have the same interests. Be interested in other people and before you know it, they will be interested in you but you have to make the first step.
Good luck.
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reader, liligray +, writes (6 July 2005):
what!? get the hell away from this girl, shes treating you like scum! You are at university, the best time of your life! guarenteed your scared, but who isn't? everyone is in the same position, everyone wants new friends, what you must do is open up, be happy and chatty, people are going to be attracted to you far more and you will gain friends. If you worry about talking to people just make general conversation to people in your class. But also remember you can be a independent happy gal, especially when it comes to the girl your referring to, she seems to be putting you down and thats the last thing you need.This is the first day at uni, you have 3 years left, thats a long time to ease yourself in, it may feel like the end of the world today, but you have a long way to go, and things change. Involve yourself with people who make you happy, not miserable
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