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writes: I need help. I love my boyfriend with all my heart but recently he said that he wasn't sure that he loved me anymore. I have been going out with him for 3 and a half years and for a large amount of that this relationship has been long distance. However from my point of view it has been working very well. I went to visit him and he said that he didn't love me anymore and he thought that seeing me would have helped but it didn't. I was supposed to be going abroad with him next week and he only told me he didn't love me last week. At the moment I can't cope with being around him. It makes me feel very upset. He however wants to be friends and I would like to eventually too. Does anyone think it is possible to be friends with someone if you've been deeply in love with someone and expected them to care for you for your whole life? Any advise on anything I have said would be welcome.
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reader, liligray +, writes (6 July 2005):
I am in exactly the same position as you! i thought things were going fantastically, but apparently not. he cheated on me and is now seeing someone else. I too was with this guy for 3 years and thought i could marry him, but things change. We tried to be friends but it hurt me too much and now we have no contact, although i miss him, im much happier and have started enjoying the single life!Maybe one day when your heart has healed you will be able to meet again and be friends. But put this in perspective, this is one relationship! when you have got yourself up again and started living you will meet other people!In my advice give this guy some time without any contact, it will be bloody hard but he will either see what he misses or it will end for the best. Spend some time with friends and realise there will be more to come in this life. Soon he will be so insignificant to your life, do you really want to be with someone who doesnt truely love you? You deserve someone who will give you true affection.
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