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writes:I am a bit upset at the moment . The man I have been dating just left my home after an arugement . He didn't understand why I would get upset when he started talking about how he wishes women would hit on him ... And I was the only person in four years to hit on him . He said he needs that for an ego boost .I won't lie madee feel like he is looking for some one new to come along . He came back with it's just a guy thing . Is it ? Is it harmless or a forewarning of what's to come Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (15 November 2010):
 Hah! I actually was just whining about the same thing about a week ago. It sucks being somewhat used to getting attention, and then as you get older it comes in less frequently, and you miss warding off the guys whistling and checking you out. It's very harmless. And I don't think it's just a guy thing... it's a people thing. We like to feel attractive and desired by people. It's very natural!
He just needs an ego stroke, and I'm sure he was not trying to make you feel bad! Good luck!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (15 November 2010):
 It is harmless.
It's an everybody's thing.
Until a few years ago, any time I'd pass a building site I was whistled after and blown kisses. Now, more often , I am either ignored or greeted with a polite nod.
That makes me a bit sad. Why ? Do I specifically want to date a construction worker ? Not at all.
Everybody likes an ego boost every now and then. When they start dwindling, you feel it . And when they stop coming altogether... luckily I haven't reached that point yet, lol !
So don't worry - we all have our little vanities and fragilities. Maybe you should just be more generous with compliments for him ( only if they are sincere though ! )
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reader, Myrrh  +, writes (15 November 2010):
 Its a guy/girl thing. I think alot of folk like to think theyve still 'got it going on'. We are all told we should love ourselves and not care what others think. We should be secure enough, not to need outside validation that we are attractive ect ect. But an appreciating glance from the opposite sex is always a bit of an ego boost for anyone. It doesnt mean we would run off with them or anything like that. He was just explaining how he feels about his looks and sex appeal. Basically that he feels he has none! But he wasnt talking about cheating.
My partner says the same to me sometimes. He thinks hes ugly because girls dont stare at him or chat him up. I think its good he can talk to you about how he feels. Atleast it gives you the chance to big him up abit and make him feel better. Rather that, than he finds someone else who does it for you! Now that would be worrying x
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (15 November 2010):
 I think since he talked to you about it he really isn't looking for love, he's just wondering if he's still attractive to women. Don't you enjoy it when you catch some guy checking you out?
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