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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I met a fantastic woman while I was working part-time a few months ago and I have had a great time hanging out with her. Just 3 days ago, she called me, asked me out to dinner, and told me that she has feelings for me. I was speechless although i adore her too. I didn't say anything to her confession, and although she seemed sad by my lack of response, she told me that she would call me. The problem is: she still hasn't.Now the truth is, I'm concerned about the age gap between us. That's why i found it hard to respond to her when she told me about how she felt. I am 16, although I don't really look or dress my age and many have mistaken me for a 20 year old (yes, its really frustrating!), and she is 24.Now that is an 8 years gap. To me, that's a lot, and although we think alike and we have the same interests and we get along great, there is a part of her that makes me back off just a little, and that is the fact that she loves the whole lesbian scene! I mean, she loves going to lesbian bars and hanging out with all her lesbian friends at those places. Me? Well i'm still not exposed to that kind of lifestyle! I'm only 16 and the legal age for clubbing in lesbian bars and such in my country is 18. I know you must be wondering: Why not just try and sneak in to the scene since you look like you're 20?Sure, i could, but they check IDs and stuff, and i just don't want to get into the trouble of getting a fake ID. I have always been a really studious student anyway, so i was never keen on the club scene.Anyway, I adore her and i would like us to be something more, but i'm just unsure if i could "fit in" with her kind of life.I mean, as a 16 year old lesbian, life for me is all about chilling out, watching movies, studying, and all the pretty mild and innocent stuff.She, on the other hand, is 24 and huge on the lesbian scene. She knows every lesbian in town there is to know, and i just.... i don't know if this won't become an issue in the near future if we end up together.So what do you guys think? Do you guys generally think its weird for a 16 year old and a 24 year old to get together? Should i maybe wait another 2 years before i act on my feelings? Its gonna be hard, surely, but if it's for the best, then anything should go! Any help is appreciated. Many thanks in advance!
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (15 November 2010):
 Waiting is possibly going to be the best thing you have ever done for yourself. It will help to ensure everything about this situation from readiness to strength of emotion. It will allow you to grow more and then, when you are ready, you will know and you will be free to act.
I hope that helps.
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