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writes:Hi, My husband left me and moved in with another women straight away that he had known for about 10 weeks. We have 2 children 7 and 8 years. He said at first he needed time to think, but now they have moved into another house together with her 5 kids aged 5 to 22 years. This women had nothing she lived in a dump, is unemployed, no car and is 7 years older then me. She now has this brand new rental property that he paid the bond on and a new car. He's been gone now for almost 6 weeks and in the second week he came back to me for 2 nights and told me and our kids that he was staying but then left the next day. He wont talk to me he is angry with me doesn't see much of his kids. I'm so confused don't know what to think.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (13 August 2008):
 The guys having a second wind! Mid life crisis. Hasn't known this woman 5 minutes and moved in with her already? What kind of mature adult does that unless they have taken leave of their senses. Is it certain he hasn't long known her?
I would put money on it going completely tits up sometime soon. Its hard enough finding someone suitable to settle down with, anyone can dive straight in with someone before getting to know them. Successful relationships usually come from getting to know someone and taking it slow. Its called dating!
He doesn't know what he wants cuz he thinks the grass is greener, and is giving it a go, but is possibly realising there are a few things he doesn't like that much. Blimey he hasn't known her long enlough to know if she's a complete nut job during pmt or menapause yet! Or know her children.
But the main problem is going to be do you take him back or not at some point, and only you can decide that.
Good luck.
C xxxx
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reader, Fairy Godmother +, writes (13 August 2008):
 I would find it impossible to forgive his behaviour, if I were in your position. My advice would be to change your locks and get a good lawyer.
My heart goes out to you. Good luck!
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reader, britbrit  +, writes (13 August 2008):
 well hunny, you need to be strong for kids and CANNOT allow him to continue walking in and out of your life as he does. You being as understanding as you are, "giving him time to think" already is giving him that control "POWER" to gear your mind where ever he wants.
Also You stating all of her negatives....is not going to make him come back or do anything for you or your situation.
It's obvious he wants nothing to do with you nor your kids. so what he's demonstrating is exactly what you should think.
Most women feel as you do, and it's okay to feel like this.
but, when begins to interfere with your children's lives....it's time for you to take charge and try numbing your emotions for the sake of your children.
....its the truth... =/
i hope everything tunrs out for the better.
xoxox;
~bRiTbRiT3
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