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writes:Im 20yrs old, and I have been with my bf for 4 years now. We started our sex life 3 years ago when I turned 18. I have no complaints, I love it! He pleases me and I please him as well. Ok so we have INCREDIBLE sex, well we used to.Here's the problem, last year he joined the marines, he's staioned in san diego which is an hour and thirty minuetes away from where I live. So now we only see each other every other weekend. There's times when I go up there and stay for a week if possible. But mainly its weekends. So our sex life has cut down a bit. And well since we miss each other so much, we finish right away! Its not the same, and he knows it too.What I am glad about is that he hasn't turned to porn for pleasure, that would drive me insane.So I want to do something about my lack of sex participation. Next week he gets his two weeks of vacation and since I have my own place now he's staying with me. He's actually excited about me having my own place, he says we no longer have to be quiet lol. (I used to live with my roommate and our rooms were next to eachother.) So I want to spice things up a little actually no a lot! Lately its been him doing all the work and I've become lazy, just being on the bottom, and well I'll do my share of oral, but its just been so long since we have sex like we used to. I've also been going to the gym and taking vitamins to look my best. since he left I gained 13lbs. From 125 I went up to 137 =( but in 3 weeks I've managed to lose 9lbs, just 4 more and im me again, so hopefully my appeareance helps a little, well its for sure helping me, I feel better and feel more confident. So I want to make it up to him. I have two weeks to drive him wild, and I want to put in a lot of work, both oral and sex. I want to try new things also. I want it to be his best vacation ever. I just need advice, what do I do to make him never forget these two weeks, and have him fantisizing about me once he has to leave again. I want him to think that im a damn sex goddess! Like before=) so please give me the tips!
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reader, troysyaussie  +, writes (14 August 2008):
 your very welcome. and your right, he never is off of me. :) have fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for all ur great and sexy tips! U have given me so many ideas, I want to try them all. I had thought about the post it notes before and they seem to be a great idea! I can't thank u enough! U helped me re-open my imagination to how it used to be! Your tips are great and ur very good at this, ur man must not want to get off of you! Bet u have him wild about you! He must feel very lucky hehe!
Thanx again.
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reader, troysyaussie +, writes (13 August 2008):
After I wrote I had so many more that I could tell you and I just have to cause that way you will have lots of ideas. ok...Trim your bikini line just a little bit more than usual. Trust me, he'll notice. Next time you're making love in the missionary position, raise your knees as high as you can for a deeper, more intimate penetration.
Invest in a push-up bra of daring proportions. Wear it with a crystal necklace that plunges into the crevasse of your cleavage. Men love big full breasts.
Buy a few kinds of flavored body lotion and rub them on different parts of your body. Then play Guess That Flavor: Is it banana? Wild cherry? Triggering his taste buds will turn sex into even more of a multisensory experience.
Stimulate his sacrum (the cute little triangle below the small of his back, right where his buttocks start). A featherlike stroke here will activate the nerve endings up his spine and elsewhere. When you're cuddling on the couch watching TV, casually unclasp your bra and pull it out your sleeve, like Jennifer Beals did in
Flashdance. Just don't be surprised if his hands start wandering. Wear a garter belt with stockings -- and nothing else. You'll feel sexy. And he will think you are even sexier. When you begin to make love, start with short, shallow thrusts before you let him go deep. This will hit the most sensitive spots on you (the opening of the vagina) and him (the head of the penis)
Soak in that warm bubble bath when you know he's on his way home from somewhere. Greet him with a soapy, slick foot wave and invite him in! During intercourse, switch to oral sex and then back every once in a while. Alternating sensations will make both even more exhilarating.Have your husband close his eyes while you feed him treats, such
as mango slices or a decadent spoonful of Nutella, à la 9 1/2 Weeks. This will get him to focus on sensations he normally takes for granted -- and probably get him hungering to indulge in other ways. During foreplay, pick a part of his body that's your favorite and praise it to the skies. Start with "You've got the most beautiful shoulders/chest/butt I've ever seen," then expand by adding how it makes you feel, safe, weak-kneed or just plain turned on. This will increase his confidence, which is the key to crazy-hot sex. When he's still awake but thinks you're asleep, pretend you're having an erotic dream, adding your own sound effects and movements that'll catch his eye and get his gears turning. Then "wake up" and attack your man with gusto. If he asks, tell him that of course he was the star of your slumber story.
Take his hand and press your lips firmly into the palm, flicking your tongue over the area. This spot is a pressure point for his libido. Shower before bed, then hand him a thick, plushy bath towel and ask him to dry you off. Inviting him to put his hands all over your wet, just-washed body will get him thinking anything but clean thoughts. String twinkly Christmas lights around the ceiling of your bedroom, then get hot 'n' heavy under your own private starry sky. Play a sexy version of Hangman by choosing words or phrases of things you want to try in bed, from "massage" to "blindfold." Trying to figure out each other's desires will make both of you all too willing to make those mystery words a reality. Drive him crazy by kissing around, but not on, his privates, Starting right below the navel, slowly make your way over to his thigh, and then the other thigh, slowly spiraling inward. The nerve endings you ignore will become 10 times more sensitive in anticipation.Light some sparks in your backyard one night by walking around in the rain. Your rain-kissed look will definitely make his head turn and give him a hankering to get you out of those wet clothes.
Take an eyeliner pencil and write "Kiss me" or "Caress me" on your stomach, breast or other body part, adding arrows to tell him where to go (and what to do) next. Not only will he be sweetly surprised when you disrobe, but you'll get exactly what you want, where you want it!
Flash him an erotic eyeful the next time you're wearing a short skirt? Drop your car keys and then pick them up by bending waaaay over.
Buy a va-va-voom bra-and-panty set. Show it to him -- on the hanger. Then when you're out one night, tell him you're wearing it...right now. Kiss him with your eyes open, savoring the sight of your smooch.
Play the Alphabet Game, spelling out sexually suggestive words on his back with your finger and then having him guess what you wrote. This will tune his body in to the subtlest sensations and make him crave more caresses.
Wear jewelry where you normally wouldn't like a belly chain, a toe ring, an upper-arm cuff. Once these shiny objects have captured his attention, use your creativity to keep it. While dressing one morning, give him a reverse striptease. Put on a sultry CD and, standing well within his ogling range, get dressed slooowly, swaying your hips. You may not get very far before he pounces.
During your next makeout session leave your bra on, pulling your breasts out of each cup. This will allow access but keep them looking gorgeously full.
Create your own customized sexy CD by burning one on your computer. Just pick some slow, sultry tunes
Stage your own American Idol. Tell your guy he's judge Simon Cowell and sing him a sassy song. After your performance, tell him you'll do anything to stay on the show. Give him a hug that'll heat things up by pressing your index and middle fingers into the base of his neck, just to the left of his spine. This pressure point will send signals straight to his nether region.
Give him a morning peep show by installing a translucent shower curtain to show him a tantalizingly blurry image of you. It'll keep sex on his mind all day.
Take a boudoir photo of yourself, wrapped in nothing but a white sheet, with a Polaroid and leave the snapshot in his pocket so when he puts his clothes on he gets it.
Wear a new perfume for your next close encounter. Then afterward spray it on something he takes with him when he leaves. The scent will awaken his memories and make him hot for you all over again.
Breathe deeply as you climax. Women tend to hold their breath as their excitement mounts, But by breathing deeply, you'll bring oxygen-rich blood to all parts of your body, making your skin more sensitive to his every touch." Give your bedroom a bordello-esque glow by draping a red scarf over the bedside lamp. The rosy light will make your skin look extra-touchable. Instead of racing toward your peaks during sex, pick a period of time (longer than usual) that you're going to take to get there. Forcing yourselves to teeter on the brink until, say, 9:20pm will make your finale much more explosive.
Leave a soft light on and keep your eyes open during lovemaking. Seeing your bodies entwined will create some enticing eye candy. Make up a new name for sex. chasing the rainbow, grabbing some paradise, whatever means something to just the two of you. That way you can bring up this steamy topic in public and share a secret that'll strengthen your bond. When getting undressed one evening, take off everything but your high heels. Casually walk around as if you just haven't bothered to kick them off yet. The next time you get it on, keep your underwear on as long as possible to get him really hot and bothered.
Treat his tie (if he wears one) like a leash and lead him to bed. He'll love being your pet. ok. i think you probably have enough now. Good luck and have fun. Hope I helped. :)
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reader, britbrit +, writes (13 August 2008):
 hehehe
well hunny, turn to porn..get new ideas.
or try role play with him.....
or better yet; ask him what it is that he wants.
talk about each other's fantacies and go for it....
[ even if it doesn't come out EXACTLY perfect ], he'll b appreciative that you tried...and when things dont come out perfect.. it always seems to end up soo much more fun.
=]
hopefullyy i gave you some great ideas;
xoxox..
GOOD LUCK !
~bRiTbRiT
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reader, troysyaussie +, writes (13 August 2008):
There are so many things that you can do but I want to tell you some things that are not sex per say but sexual that will make him crazy wanting you every second of every day. :) I love this stuff. ok. Take an orange wedge and slick the juice onto your lips so they're wet and enticing. Then give your guy a sweet, citrusy smooch. Drop a hot hint of what you're dying to do in bed. Stick Post-its all over the place that describe positions and tips you'd like to try as well as sweet sayings. Maybe even put some dark lipstick on and kiss the post-its and stick them all over the walls.Get a set of ridiculously long press-on fingernails and delicately run them over his chest during lovemaking. They'll make you look like a minx, and the teasing-tickling sensation will awaken his wild side.
After nooky one night, write down the things he did that wowed you the most. Then write "Dear [insert his name]," at the top of the note and slip it into his pocket so the next day he can be reminded of how much he rocked your world. Switch sex positions from him on top to you on top (or vice versa) without interrupting the action. Do this by wrapping your legs around his waist, throw your arms around his shoulders and roll over in unison. This way you can stay intimately connected for a superclose sexual experience. Hit a totally new erogenous zone: his "N-spot," the crease between a man's chin and Adam's apple. Kissing, licking and nibbling this extra sensitive spot will activate the nerve endings in his genitals. Drives men wild. Before you join your man between the sheets, cover every inch of your body in moisturizer. This soothing self-massage will give your libido a jump-start, so you're craving his caresses by the time you're in bed.
Go bowling, play poker, do whatever you normally do for fun, but tell him you want to make it interesting with a sexy wager: Whoever loses has to [you fill in the blank].
When you're on top of him during the act, raise your knees, plant your feet on the bed and move up and down rather than back and forth. Not only will this take-charge pose make him think you're a sex goddess, but he'll get an incredible view of the action down below. Don't forget over the two weeks, make him some special meals. Lot's of candles. Take a nice bubble bath together with some wine and rose petals. Cover the bed in rose petals. Just be really romantic and passionate and he will love and adore and cherish you forever. :) Hope I helped a little bit
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