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writes:I've been with my girlfriend for almost three years now. She's my first girlfriend. We fight almost everyday, and make up almost everyday. We talk about it all the time. But she still gets upset about the same things. Also she always wants me to hang out with her but a lot of the time we don't do much. If I go before 2 hours she'll get upset; She's really needy. She doesn't have many friends or anything much of anything else going on in her life. No hobbies, watches tv a lot, and has a dog. Sometimes I feel that things are working out. It feels like we've been fighting forever. I always try to work things out by pointing out what went wrong but we still fight, often over things that we've fought over before. I don't know what to do. I feel as if it's just not working out. I'm afraid to dump her though because I feel like I may regret it later. We have our days but it feels like everyother day, or more, we fight.help Reply to this Question
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reader, duskyrowe  +, writes (13 August 2008):
 You guys are spending way too much time together, that is why you guys fight all the time. I think you should sit her down and calmly tell her that both of you should take time out once in a while from each other, I mean it is not neccessary to see each other everyday. Surely?
Otherwise the relationship gets stale, arguements escalate and can get out of hand. Like you said she is very needy, but do you really want to be with a person who is co-dependant on you and wants to spend 24/7 with you? Oh my God that would drive me insane.
Suggest she should spend time with her friends occasionally and you with yours. I think you should cut down to about 2/3 days a week when you two see each other, and when you do meet up go some where nice eg movies or go for a nice meal together. You don't want to be too complacent in this relationship, or you guys could split up. Which is the last resort. Good luck hun xx.
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reader, britbrit +, writes (13 August 2008):
 wow well.
they often say the more obsitcls you overcome in a relationship, the stronger you become as 1.
After a while if you start arguing about the same things...be real...you arent getting anywhere.
Even if you guys do talk it out..it really doesnt matter, cuz you know all that talking is a waste if yous are gonna argue about the same things.
She's too needy and has NO life. just think...if she had "friends" or other activities to do...would she be as needy...?
maybe it's time for you to reacess where you stand in her eyes. Maybe she's just holding on to you because she has on one else or anything else....&& she knows your always goign to be there no matter what =/
hate to say it but it's true.
...xoxox
~bRiTbRiT
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reader, Dreamie Tofu +, writes (13 August 2008):
Im not sure what is the thing she always gets upset about. But it seems to me that if you did something that made her upset and it causes alot of fighting i dont think talking to her about the fight is the solution.As a girl myself no matter how much i argue with my boyfriend and its my fault he ends up saying sorry and do something nice which eventuall ends it. Since you say things that make me think she alway stays home you should take her out on a date more often, bring her out to do something fun and memorable because everytime my boyfriend bring me out for an adventure like maybe a simple walk on the park thats not near or far it seems to make us argue less. Because it will make me think of the fun day instead of what is making me mad.So try it but if you want to leave her and your even thinking about it it seems to me YOUR not happy with this relationship and you want to get out. the best thing to do is if talking to her about how both of you guys feel isnt the solution show it to her that you want to make this a happy relationship not a everyday i wake up we argue thing.Take her out MAKE everything memorable for her to be happy about you guys will argue less and it will make her feel like you want her to be happy.
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