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writes:im 13. ive suffered from 2 server addictions. one-cutting two-over doseage of pills. anti-depresents. i want to share my story and tell some luckier people what its like to b 13 and have a bad life. It all started in 7th gade when some 18 yearold ass whole used me for sex and played with my head. i got all depessed and stated with antiis and cutting and crap. my life just sucks balls.its a long story if u have a min or two i would like to tell u all of it just lemme know. Well now, i have a loving boyfreind. The problem is im pregnant. We used a condom and i was about to go on birth control, but i was about to start my period cycle and wasnt paying attention to the days, so now im 3 weeks pregnant. fun. my bf knwos and he is here for me but still i dont know what to do. I dont want a saggy vagina and a baby im onyl 13! but i dont wana kill and inncoent sea moneky living inside me!! Not to mention my best freind, chelsey, gave 2 blow jobs before her period and apperntly is late as well. I dont know what to do. please try and give me advice.
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reader, kissxmexagainx +, writes (23 April 2009):
 well you're very young but if you don't want an abortion, don't do it. you won't get saggy, the vagina is elastic && you're only 13 years old so you shouldn't worry about that. I think you should look into adoption. I can totally relate to your situation, at you age I was on drugs, cutting && drinking. I am now a recovering alcoholic and haven't done any of that in a year. I'm also pregnant, but a young adult so that situation differs. I'll be 19 when I have my baby. You need to stop taking any medications especially if you are overdosing. It can kill your baby. good luck.
also it seems that you aren't very sexually educated, which I'm not judging as it's understandable at your young age. So I'll try to help you out here. as far as your friend goes, you can't get pregnant from giving blowjobs. the only way to get pregnant is if semen enters the vagina.
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reader, jorjax1x  +, writes (22 April 2009):
 well i was 14 and found out i was expecting twins now i am 15 due in september to be honest you have to make your own mind up for it tell your mam they so surportive trust me you carnt get pregnant of sucking some one off write back please x
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reader, anoms +, writes (12 February 2009):
 thats annoying, one minute you hear "i know he's older but im madly in love" the next its "he used me for sex" and then the honest guys are sat ther wandering why they cant find a girl, everyone looses.
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reader, AStrawb3rry4L +, writes (5 February 2009):
 press on. God is with you. he loves you. just remember this. pray for help. God wouldn't give you such big problems if he knew you couldn't do it. you are an extraordinary person with extraordinary problems. just keep going, don't give up on yourself, and try living to the fullest even when you can't see the lights.
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reader, Jada  +, writes (3 February 2009):
 woah girl... you should have used a morning after pill which keeps the egg from being fertilesed... its has to be consumed within 48 hours!!! you are olny thirteen and you are already ruining your life... how will you take care of that baby but i gess you do have the right boyfrind who woul not abonden you... wooh, sweetheat does your mummy konw about this?
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reader, Jada +, writes (3 February 2009):
woah girl... you should have used a morning after pill which keeps the egg from being fertilesed... its has to be consumed within 48 hours!!! you are olny thirteen and you are already ruining your life... how will you take care of that baby but i gess you do have the right boyfrind who woul not abonden you... wooh, sweetheat does your mummy konw about this?
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reader, dr.2.be +, writes (3 February 2009):
 Hey girl,
You may wanna think about ALL the options you have at this point. You are only 13 years old, your still a kid! I remember when I was 13 having a baby or sex was the last thing on my mind. I was still a kid playing in the mud, climbing trees and getting in trouble for stupid stuff. I didnt even have my period or wear a bra. I really wish sometimes to go back to those days where I didnt have any worry. However having a baby will force you to grow up quick...theres no more time to enjoy childhood right now! I know people are going to hate me for saying this but you really may want to consider the option of abortion. I know its harsh but in the United States you can do it legally and confidentially. Use this as a lesson you have learned and vow to yourself to be more careful next time. In my opinion this option would be better for YOU given your age and potential financial situation. Pregnancy itself is very stressful and you have school, friends and other kid stuff to worry about. your not old enough to deal with the demands of a full grown woman. Im in my early twenties and Im not ready to be pregnant and raise a child either. Babies are a lot of money, time and dedication that someone at your age is not be ready for.
If you do decide to have the baby consider adoption. Find a family who would like a baby and set up an adoption with them. Your still going to have to deal with the pregnancy but wont have to take care of the baby, instead your baby will have a stable family- a mommy and daddy who will take care of it and be in a stable financial situation.
If you want to keep your baby as yours, you will have to accept that your life is over. No more going out with friends, hanging out after class, going to the mall, movies or on mini shopping sprees as your money will need to go to your baby's care. Your college life wont be normal, you cant do the best things in college such as drinking, partying and such. Thank the Lord if you have parents that will raise the baby for you if you choose this option. I dont have parents who would raise my baby if I got pregnant, regardless or age. Just remember a child is like a ball and chain, he or she will weigh you down for the rest of your life and deprive you of the freedom and enjoyment of teenage years and young adulthood all the way until the day you die.
As far as the saggy vagina....pregnancy doesnt cause it..its natural birth which changes your shape down there. It wont sag, but there is a possibility of it becoming loser. Over time it may tighten up again as you are still young. At this time however, you have a lot more to worry about than a saggy vagina.
Good Luck and I support you no matter which decision you make!
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reader, steffi666 +, writes (3 February 2009):
You need to go to your doctor and get professional help, your a baby yourself. Dont take this the wrong way but you seem very immature yourself, thats why i say you need professional help with this one.
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reader, momo4eva77 +, writes (2 February 2009):
that sad but im thirteen too. if i were you u shudnt worry unless ur parents dont no. u shud tell ur mom first then ur mom will tell ur dad. u shudnt kill the baby jus wait till the baby is due nd have the baby nd if u love the baby toomuch keep the baby nd make ur mom take care of it or u shud give it away. make sure u do the right thing. good luck!!! :)
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reader, loving me +, writes (1 February 2009):
U will not have a saggy vagina! I think that at 13 you should be worrying about school. Your not old enough to get a job so sex should be the last thing on your mind and abortion is not an option there are so many people who want kids. If you are make the right choice. And talk to your mom. Im sure she'll help you. So keep your head up ok!
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reader, shna  +, writes (30 January 2009):
 . . . do what you think is right for your life i no alot of people arnt going to like what i say right now but ITS YOUR LIFE and dont let anything get in the way of ruining it if you want to keep the baby thats great at least you no you have your boyfriends support but if you want an abortion thats perfect aswell im sorry you went thru all that in you life things will get brighter x x
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reader, HeartASHXOXO +, writes (26 January 2009):
sweetie, I can understand about the crappy life...trust me. Remember, do whats best for the baby but DONT FORET ABOUT YOURSELF!! just remember to take care of yourself. promise me that. And tell your friend that its impossible to get preg from a blow job. but its okay, shes young and just doesnt understand yet... take care!!
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reader, prettypinkiebaby +, writes (23 January 2009):
prettypinkiebaby is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank u both for responding!!!!! i really needed that!!! thank uuu!!!
love!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2009): You've GOT to remember if you do decide to keep your baby then its about what best for him or her. Like Uncle rantsome pointed out they'l have your main attention 24/7. If you dont want to kill the baby/fetus then the least you can do for it is give birth and put him or her up for adoption. You dont no how lucky you are. My step sister cant have children and its always been her dream to. So now her and her fiancé are going to adopt.
There are many couples that could offer a loving family. Just think about it. You have the chance to complete a family!
All the best xx
If you want to talk more pm me =]
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reader, Uncle Rantsome +, writes (22 January 2009):
 hello darlin i went through the same thing when i was 14 years old in terms of deppression and pregnancy.firstly your understanding of sex is obviosly suited to ure age you cannot get pregnant from giving oral sex even if you swallowed a bath full of cum.she is probably late because she is worrying her self over the fact she might be pregnant. u see high levels of stress can delay ure menstrual cycle so jus tell her to be kool n things will flow as normal.secondly because of your lack of maturity darlin you need to work out if ure ready to be a mother.it sounds to me that you have had things really tough but you cant count on anyone but yourself,sure you may have a loving boyfriend now but as a precaution can u raise a baby alone because there is always the chance you will split up.dont worry about a saggy vagina worry about not having any youth of your own,no partys at college,no travelling the world,just a lifetime of caring for another life something that will be here after you die.you have the rest of your life to grow up angel why rush it your still just a kid yourself.im not patronising you either because im from the underage pregnancy capitol of the world and thats actually officially recorded i see the pain it causes i see the qaulity of life of both kids and its a real shame to see. it is of course your choice but think carefully and maybe you should focus on sorting out your issues before taking such a big step.get back to me anytime you need a chat darlin either through this or u can find me personally at myspace jus look for Rantsome in the uk birmingham ok darling good look and much love x x x
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