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writes:Here is my issue: I had a boyfriend who I was with for about 3 years. Our relationship went down the drain after fighting constantly, day after day.. about stupid things. So me and my boyfriend went on a break. But even though we were on a break, we still talked, and fought.. But while we were on our break, he met a girl. At first, I didn't mind, but at times it got to me, and that's when I fought with him because I got jealous, and I guess I pushed him away.. I pushed him to go to her because I told him that he treated her better than me, which was sort of true. So he went to her, and we didn't talk for a very long time. And after a while, I started missing him, so I called him...crying. When I called him, he told me he was with her, and that he had to go.. So I hung up on him. I knew it was all my fault. I met up with him a couple weeks after, and we settled it, he told me he wanted to work things out. But he says the only problem was that it would take a while because the girl's parents has him "trapped?" and he felt threatened by them if he left her. So he told me to wait.. and so I did, but I told him I would only wait if he promised to call me once in a while to show he still cares for me. But did he call? or text? NO... so I texted him saying that if was only gonna end up hurting me, then I should just leave. He told me not to because he says he still loved me and once again promised to show his love.. but did he? NO. So last night, I told him I was tired of waiting, tired of getting hurt, so I left. I told him good bye. And he got mad. I texted him "good bye, and I'm sorry". But now, I'm just having mixed emotions because I feel like I deserve so much better, like I wish I wasn't so alone. I still love him, I know I do. But I just feel like I NEED to walk away from this, and something's holding me back.
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (22 January 2009):
 Okay, here's the truth. He doesn't love you anymore.
If he did, he would have done things to show you that he did. You have to let this guy go. You have to know that you deserve someone out there that is going to treat you like a queen. If you stay with this guy, you will never be the number one girl like you once were.
He knows that you are crazy about him and trust me, it feeds their ego, that is why he is stringing you along.
Your the backup girl now..if the relationship with that girl doesn't work out.
Find your pride and dignity and walk away. Even when he calls now....its too late. Your not waiting on him another day. You are still so young. Go out and find yourself and what makes you happy besides this man. Of course you will miss him and think of the good times. But those times are over. It will never be the same, so it's time to move on.
In times, you will forget about him and wonder why you spent tears on him. The one thing i wish I knew at your age and only discovering now is You have to love and put yourself first. No man will ever give you the happiness you are looking for. You have to find that within yourself.
Best of luck
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reader, 2old4this +, writes (22 January 2009):
 jen is exactly correct. Not much else to say except now it's time for YOU to be happy. Go out with some friends and have a blast. Ciao babe.
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reader, jenr9074 +, writes (22 January 2009):
 Three years is whats holding you back. There is some reason why you fell in love with this man in the first place. He's just confused and doesn't know what he wants. If he really wanted you and not her then her parents would not be an issue.........thats silly. You sound like a sweet, nice, passionate person you deserve better. Try turning your phone off for a few days. He knows were you live if he wants you he'll find you. Don't wait around for him anymore live your life be with your friends, as long as they are not his friends too. Take up an actie hobby anything to keep your mind off of him. Good luck sweety!!
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