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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2007): Generic question asking for a generic answer...
As others have mentioned, you need time and effort on your part. Friends and extra cirricular activities really helped me get over my ex quickly. I still think about some of our bad and good time, but those are lingering things that will always stay with me.
You need to readjust yourself, build yourself, repair your foundations. Your friends, family, and other influences can only do so much. I also suggest you DON'T find another intimate companion until you are sure you are not haunted by your current woes.
Start with your interests, and expand on that. Meditate and reflect. Experiment. 8]
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reader, Donna19972 +, writes (7 February 2007):
I am sorry to hear you are struggling. I know it is a cliche but time is the greatest healer. You have to just take each day as it comes. Don't spend too much time on your own. Your friends and family are always good to talk to. If you are down, pick up the phone and call a friend. I know it is hard and you don't want to do anything and your whole world is consumed by this at the moment but it will get better, slowly. Take care
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reader, Angel-Face +, writes (7 February 2007):
 right i no im a lass but we beck hearts all the time one day you have to get use to it its painful i now but its part of life you will get another lass and be even happyer with her so dont worry your self there plenty of fish in the see
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reader, here_2_help +, writes (7 February 2007):
 its hard i know but you need to know you are not alone that would be the worst ting for you at the moment so please know that the pain wont go away but in time it will get better and and easer to cope with. if i were you i would think of the happyest times in my life and try and take your mind off the pain. you are not alone and it will get better. hope thihs helps xx
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reader, kelpel +, writes (7 February 2007):
oh darling, keep your chin up.
a broken heart is the worst feeling in the world - I know youre probably feeling at your ultimate lowest, and like you can no longer live. I honestly guarentee you - it will mend - unfortunately there is only one cure ... time. hold on to that feeling you get when you wake up in the morning and just for that split second you have forgotten the pain - that millisecond before it all comes flooding back. You;ll feel that constantly one day.
try not to spend too much time by yourself, rely on your best friends - do lots of things to take your mind away from what ever has happened.
hold your head high - and smile. just take time to think of the good things in life. take a holiday if you can. do something you love, and think of all the good times
xxxxx
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reader, Lake +, writes (7 February 2007):
I can not give you much sound advice. There are no cure or any way to ease the pain - the pain must be endured and not ignored. Get your closest friends and family and talk to them. Their support will be the only thing that can help you endure it more easily, even though if feels like your heart being torn apart.
Please don't ignore it and simply give up on love or life, or force yourself to pretend the feeling was never there, it usually leads to self destruction.
Everyone who has feelings would have been through a broken heart at least once. I have been through it too many times and it don't get any easier. Best to move on mate. Good luck and best wishes.
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