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writes:my girlfriend has an extremely high sex drive, and once i 'finish' she still wants more. what do i do?
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (8 June 2011):
 talk to her about what she wants. it amazes me how so many people can be intimate enough to have sex with a person but then can't be intimate and open enough to TALK about sex with them. do you have a problem lasting long enough for her? if so research ways to stop yourself, if this fails use you hands on her. you know foreplay? - well there is such as thing as 'after-play' too
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2011): Marry her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2011): make the most of it...lucky guy :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2011): I'm not saying you have to incorporate everything from this book, but you might want to skim through a title called, "The Tao of Love and Sex" (I think you can find it on Amazon.) While the book has some extreme suggestions, taking them to heart and putting them to use, just a little, might solve your problem. And your girlfriend will never be left unsatisfied again.
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (31 May 2011):
 Jeez by the time I'm finished I automatically assume "The Cuddle" position and fall asleep while she wants to talk all night :)
Maybe after next time ask her "what what you like me to do for you now?"
Or why not turn it into a game where you will do whatever she wants... And learn that way?
I usually make sure she's happy before I finish... If after that she wants more just say "even Superman has his limits darling" before rolling over and Zzzzzzzzzzzzz
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reader, weakSOB  +, writes (31 May 2011):
Like everyone else here says. you have to make her peek before you "finish".
how would you feel if every time you had sex, she peeked first and then just fell asleep?
give her what she needs. if thats not the case than you have a problem that is hard to deal with cause at the end she will search for it somewhere else.
cheers.
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reader, charliesdevil73  +, writes (31 May 2011):
 I am a lot like your girlfriend. A lot of times I still want more after my man has finished. If you are still hard and willing to let her do her thing, tell her to be on top. Or you can try the lazy man position. If you haven't heard of that one, it's where you lie on your side and she lies on her back and you just meet at the middle. You can still contribute if you want or let her do all the work. Just explain first that you are tired afterward and you want her to be pleased but she will have to do most of the work. I don't think she would be to put off by that.
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reader, kylieekristina +, writes (31 May 2011):
 Yes, I have the same question as aunt honesty....what do you or does she mean by more? Is she achieving at least one orgasm b4 u "finish" ? I'd also like to add that when I was your age I never wanted more....because I hadnt experienced an orgasm. Sex was more of a tool or a treat I gave my boyfriend. Don't get me wrong, it felt good, but I didn't ever crave it at that age. So I'm thinking your doing something very very right or very wrong..... or she may just have a huge sexual appetite. Bottom line I think the best thing to do in this situation is to talk to her openly, and let her know before hand that you will not be upset no matter what she says....you just want to keep her happy and satisfied and communication is so important in a relationship. I also found that I wasnt being satisfied because I wasn't completely comfortable with my self and my body. Talking to her and letting her know you really want to please her may loosen her up more and she may achieve a higher level of pleasure. Good Luck to you and her
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (31 May 2011):
 Go down on her and use your fingers too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2011): Try letting/getting her to finish first...it might not be a high sex drive that's her problem, it could just be that it takes her a longer time to finish than you.
Men and women don't tend to sync up well when they have orgasm. It's a pretty common story with women...it just takes them longer to get to the finish line.
If you climax very quickly after beginning sex, then it's no surprise she's left wanting more. I would suggest restraining yourself (try giving her oral or using your hand) for 15 minutes to give her a head start.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (31 May 2011):
 Well, your secret is in your mindset. Just because you have an orgasm doesn't mean that you are "finished". All it means is that you switch tools, as Aunt Honesty said.
You can attack this in two different ways:
1. Before you have your orgasm, you could spend lots of time with oral or other clitoral stimulation. Remember, many women do not have the "reload" time that men do. Lots of them can have more than one orgasm. Never ever restrict your thinking so that you believe that your penis should be the only source of pleasure for her. No way!
2. After you have your orgasm, you switch to manual and/or oral stimulation for her. You continue after you've had your orgasm.
I would recommend #1 first, primarily because after you "finish", as you know, it's daunting to even cuddle after sex, much less keep up the intensity for her. The other way, you wait longer ro have your orgasm, but you'll reduce her to a weak-kneed, limp, spent, woman who has just experienced ecstacy.
Some of the best lovers who are men have the ability to fire more than once during one sexual encounter. They finish, and slow down the foreplay, bring the woman to a few orgasms, drift off a little maybe, and then go again. Better have a way to get something to eat, because you will be absolutely ravenous after a marathon session like that.
Bottom line, you may not have the stamina for a 4 hour sexfest, but use ALL of your tools to pleasure her, and ejaculation does not mean finish.
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reader, HungFunBuddy_Yahoo +, writes (31 May 2011):
You should give her oral for sure but you should try to give her more foreplay first. If you can't keep it up long enough for her; that's common for young guys. When you get older and better you can extend your ejaculation. You'll find that extending foreplay quite a bit with her can result in her having her orgasam much quicker.
Good luck!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (30 May 2011):
 well it depends really on what you mean by more. I guess if you finish before her and she hasnt finished well then maybe you could spend sometime on oral sex or foreplay. However if she is expecting you just to carry on having sex well then she is expecting way to much and asking for something that is impossible. Talk to her about it and tell her how it is making you feel. I guess everyone has different sex drives if you both talk openly about it maybe you can both come to some compromise over the situation. Good Luck.
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