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writes:My girlfriend and i have been together for three months now and at the first month she told me we are going to have sex in two months time and its two months and she tells me that she is not used to me and we met every single day and kisses.what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2010): I agree with A male reader, Jmtmj, very well said. I will just add 13-15 is TOO YOUNG to be talking of a sexual relationship with all the emotions that go with it. That for me is what's worrying, this girl could be 13, regardless how mature she looks, she is still emotionally inexperienced and a child,
and no boy should ever push for sex, and that is where I will leave it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2010): I was 16 when I got together with my boyfriend. I kept saying that we could have sex in 10 years time (jokingly of course). Inside, I decided that I would be ready for us to go to the next step after 6 months of dating. The reason I never told him the real number? I didn't want to feel pressured if it got to the 6 month marker and I'd overestimated myself and wasn't ready. Don't pressure her, she's not ready and you'll only lose her if you do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2010): all im going to say is dont force her into anything, alot of pressure is put onto girls these days about having sex. she must really love you if she is willing to stay with you, but are you just using her for sex? .. if you are then i think you should both move on because thats not cool
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2010): Because she isn't ready but she doesn't want to loose you.
Anyway, your really young... So don't pressure her.
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reader, Bubblebee +, writes (13 June 2010):
Don't jump into a sexual relationship to quickly! My Bf and I started having sex a month into our relationship and as much as we promised each other it wouldn't cause problems IT DID AND DOES!!! A year later he has become hard to be with, we both know it needs to end, but bcos we jumped into our first sexual relationship so quickly we find it hard to stop the sex or break the bond that comes with it. Don't rush her if she's not ready.... Its really not worth rushing especially at such a young age!
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reader, tmisty777  +, writes (13 June 2010):
 You guys have only been together for three months, yo need to wait much longer than that before you have sex, even if both of you guys believe you are ready.
Truthfully, becoming sexual at a young age may cause them to want to have more fun while they're young, she might not want to stay with you anymore.
Don't force her to do something she soesn't want to because something that should be so special might turn into a punishment to her. You would push her away.
Wait until you know FOR SURE that you want to be with tha person forever and the same to them, because it's important to keep yourself for the person that you marry.
Wait it out and the pleasure will be much more rewarding because you know she is ready and willing, wanting to give her body to you, not because you told her to but because she believes that you are the one. It will mean a lot to her- try not to bring it up in a peer pressure manner.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (13 June 2010):
 I know it's a lot to ask from a guy your age, but if you really like this girl , you should just simply wait as much as she wants and not pressure her into doing something she is not quite ready for.
LOet's forget for a moment the fact that you are too young to have sex anyway- because I know you don't want to hear that. But keep in mind that most girls need to feel emotionallly ready and comfortable with a guy ( not only physically ) to beable enjoying sex, and two or three months is too short time to achieve that.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (13 June 2010):
 Err... you wait until she's ready. Sex is a privilege, not an obligation... Personally I hope she makes you wait longer.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (13 June 2010):
 You can't push her. And if you're 13-15 and so is she, you both are too young! Do you realize the risks involved in sex? Take your time!
If you're just wanting sex from someone, she's probably not the right one. Best to stop pressuring her, break up, and go after someone who only wants casual sex.
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