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writes:hello everyone, so my girlfriend cheated one me broke up with me saying it was my fault, then when i found out it was cause she was cheating on me i forgave her and we got back together. then she started a fight so she could go on a date with another guy, which i found out about a few weeks after, now she broke up with me again cause she is seeing him again. so do i wait for them to break up and try and get her back if so how do i go about it, do i just tell her to f*** off and never look back. If i do manage to get back with her is there even a chance the old cliche once a cheater always a cheater is wrong. i just dont know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2010): Hi there
In all fairness mate your problem is not a tricky one...get rid of her!! your to young to be dealing with sh*t like that go out and enjoy your self she is using you. To be totally honest she is probably laughing at you behind your back. Find someone better.
Hope you make the right decision.
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (7 January 2010):
 Who cares how beautiful she is when she treats you like crap?
Please stop waiting for her to decide that she loves you because she is incapable of caring about anyone other than herself. Don't be a sucker and get some self-respect! You gotta start thinking more of yourself or else you're gonna keep attracting low-life women like this.
To get over her, try imagining her with some other guy's d*ck in her mouth. That should help.
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reader, Cookie123  +, writes (7 January 2010):
There are nicer girls around than this. The minute somebody cheats on you the trust is ruined forever. You sound like a lovely guy and you aren't being treated the way you should. Look at moving on as a positive thing because you will be much happier without her. She's playing on your insecurities and making your self esteem issues worse by always coming back to you when she has no one else. But do not be fooled! You sound far better than her, she doesn't deserve you hanging around for her. Honestly, you can and will do far better. Good luck. :)
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reader, InvisibleMe +, writes (6 January 2010):
 Dump that abusive turd.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2010): You leave her and never look back. She is merely using you as a toy until something better or more interesting comes along. All in all she is playing you and doesnt really care about you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2010): thank u all for your advice, there are alot of reasons for why i took her back and still kind of want her back. first of i have really bad self confidence issues. everyone says i am the greatest boyfriend ever, my boss offered to divorce her husband for me if i didnt mind someone with 3 kids. and nearly every girl who knows the real me and has seen me in a comftorable enviroment would go out with me in a second if i showed any intrest but i just always see myself as worthless. so i feel like i couldnt find anyone to truly care about me. I still dont know how i got this one, shes drop dead gorgeous and everyone loves her. thats one reason the other is that we've been dating for a year and a half and i do truly love her, she means everything to me and i just cant bring myself to let her go. and in my mind i see it as she cheated because i wasnt good enough to keep her happy. I can think about it logically and i see shes just a cheater who doesnt care about me and its not my fault but i just cant bring myself to truly believe it. i guess im just that pathetic
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reader, melissa1985 +, writes (6 January 2010):
 I say break up with her for good. She is just keeping you there so when her and her other men do not work out she has you to fall back on.don't let her use you.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (6 January 2010):
Tell her to f**k off. What a cow. She's using you as the comfort blanket and nothing else. There are far better girls out there than this. Find a nice one instead.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (6 January 2010):
Why on earth would you take her back???
Is this really all you think you are worth?
Cut contact, let her carry one and if she calls to get back with you then be dignified and tell her calmly that you deserve better, then hang up.
Get over her and then find a girl who you can respect and respects you.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (6 January 2010):
 Easy - stop being her fail safe option when her fun with these other guys gets boring and walk away from her for good. She is using you, taking you for granted....basically making you look like an idiot. She is walking all over you because
a) she knows she can
b) because she knows you will always be waiting around for her like a love-sick puppy when things go wrong with whatever guy she is sleeping around with at the time.
This girl will never change, this girl doesnt love you and she definitely doesnt respect you. So start respecting yourself and get rid of her for good, she is a complete waste of space! To have the audacity to be cheating on you and then break up with you because it was "your fault" - that is just unbelievable and I have no idea why you even took her back after she said that to you!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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