My girlfriend cheated on me twice within our seven year relationship, I'm disgusted and hurt, but I love her so much. Should I forgive her?

A male age 36-40, *ogz writes:

I recently proposed to my girlfriend of seven years. After we got engaged she started acting weird and then finally about a week ago, she confessed something to me. She admitted on to having an affair four years ago that lasted for more than a year. They met online and seen each other twice and drove off to a motel both times. The guy turned out to be a rich CEO of huge food company. She said she was tempted, you see, I was never rich, I had to work to support both my parents since their old and we never had enough to save up for this stage of their lives. Four years ago, I was nobody, I was able to put up my own business three years ago which eventually grew and expanded enough for me to be able to buy a house for my parents, but I didn't do this for them not even just for me, but for us. I knew her issues with me being so financially unsecured, so I worked my butt off right after college for me to get where I am right now.

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