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writes: Ok.. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for 3 months,i love her to death she knows it,BUTShe thinks all i want is sex and she tells all her friends... she always hits me approximately she has hit me 7-9 times in the face (closed fist)and when she hits me its always when shes mad as hell and etc..She told me that im the only boyfriend that makes her mad and the her ex's were better....All my friends say im whipped because all i do is talk about her and were together 24/7..But idk i feel as if its all coming to a end because she gets mad everyday at least 2 times.. And i always try to make her not cry and etc.. And she always trys to break up with me for no reason but i always break down and cry..i really love this girl..i have that feeling as if shes the only girl for me in the world.. I need help im stuck in a abusive relationship =[I need help
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reader, kelly hunter  +, writes (16 August 2008):
 well my advice is that i think you two need to spend less time together it might help but if it doent't then you should probably break up she shouldn't be hitting you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2008): The aunts are right, you need to get some help. Please update and give us some further details. We need to know what country you are in, so we can send you to the right people. Don't worry babes, your not the only one. Men can hurt too, the way this bitch is treating you is wrong. Please get back in touch and update us on your situation. We don't know who you are, you don't know who we are, but we want to help. Please tell us what country you are living in. You have guts, you told us how bad she's been treating you. Now just one more step, tell us where you live.
Here, this peice of advice might help.. Women can be loosers and abusers too... http://www.dearcupid.org/question/warning-signs-youre-dating-a-loser.html
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (16 August 2008):
 dump this mega bitch! you are whipped by her (that is in the face with her knuckles every time she has a tantrum).
leave leave leave now!
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reader, $cared!  +, writes (16 August 2008):
she doesnt have respect for you and thats not a healthy relationship...
tell her if you dont stop physically and mentally abusing me i cant stay in this relationship.
she knows she can have you and she's taking advantage.
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reader, lexilou +, writes (16 August 2008):
 Get rid of her. This is not a NORMAL relationship. Men dont hit girls and girls dont hit men. Find a girl who really loves you and wouldnt dream of hurting you x
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reader, chloe71z +, writes (16 August 2008):
 Ok, What ever you do dont hit her back. That would be just asking for even more trouble. Second of all you are young you will find plenty of girls who will love you for who you are and NOT be abusive. If You are making her that mad she has got somekind of issue with you that she isnt willing to talk about cause first of all she should be telling you why you make her mad and not just hitting you that doesnt change anything. You also need to tell her that you dont like to be hit and she shouldnt be hitting people anyway.Second you need to get out of that relationship an abusive relationship is not a good begining.Hope this helpsGod Bless I'll Pray for you
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (16 August 2008):
 You don't love this girl. You're obsessed with her. And for that reason, you can't bare the thought of being without her. You talk about her constantly. Think about her constantly; but that doesn't really equal to love, no matter how much you want it to be.
But let's say you actually do love her. Now, just think about her actions. She hits you. She mentally abuses you. She makes fun of you. Does that say to you that she loves you? If your answer is yes, please don't be a fool. This girl doesn't love you, she's using you! She must feel crappy about herself too, and for that she makes you feel as worse as she can so she feels better about herself. You allow her have a sense of power and in my opinion, you like it.
Why do I say that you like it? It's because you believe you love her. Well, you might actually had, but now you just have a dependancy on her. She has abused you so much that she has made you feel that you're nothing without her. Has she told you you're worthless? Or that you will be nothing without her? Does she tell you you're a pig and an abuser? Does she put all the blame on you?
And how can you love to death a person that you've only been going out for THREE MONTHS? And to boot, a person who abuses you? You can't love someone TO DEATH for that short term. True love comes with time into the relationship. Comes with maturity and compromises and the mutual love for each other, on which you don't have any. I'll say it again YOU DON'T LOVE HER. Sorry to say that to you.
Now what you have to do is simple. DUMP HER ASS OFF. You lived before you even met her, right? So why can't you live without her? I will repeat myself again "YOU DON'T LOVE HER" because realistically speaking, you can't love someone who abuses you like her. So, DUMP HER, get some counceling or help from your friends and family and move on.
You don't deserve for this to happen to you. Right now, for staying with her, you're losing the opportunity to meet the right person for you. And NO, she's NOT the right person with you. Please take that blindfold from your head and see what a horrible person she is and what a fool you've been for believing you love her and staying with her. So go out there and live the life. Go and get away from that freaky thing. No human deserves this.
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (16 August 2008):
 i agree with trisha an idea on your country would help for more info.. but she has a problem and its not something you can fix unless she wants to and the fact she brags about it is not good.. you need to take yourself out of this relationship for your own well being and for hers im sure in the future neither of you want to see this sort of thing happening..so take a step away.. their are plenty of fish in the sea so dont worry about that for now its your well being thing of your self and have more respect dont put your mind or body through this behaviour.. good luck aphex xx BIG HUGS
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (16 August 2008):
 You do need to end this relationship, as it is very bad for your own mental health. What country do you live in? We might be able to point you at some good local resources that will help you cope with this.
It might be a good idea to have a chat with your doctor about this, and even more importantly, talk with your parents about this. Your friends can help keep you busy and occupied after you split up with her, but your parents should know what's been happening in your life. They may have very good insight into how to help you cope too. I know, parents aren't very cool when you're a teenager, but you know what? They've been teenagers once too, and actually most of them get wiser as they get older. Not all people do, of course, but I hope your parents fall into the wiser category.
I hope you do let us know your country, and we can give you some more local services that might be able to help.
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2008): you sound like a very nice guy and to tell you the truth your girlfriend is taking advantage of your kidness. No one should ever hit you..girl or guy! I think you need to stand up for yourself tell, talk to her tell you what you are feeling and if she doesnt understand that then I know it will be hard but you need to let her go, love isnt about pain or suffering....love should be good and pure
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reader, junebug +, writes (16 August 2008):
YOU NEED TO LEAVE HER! She will always hit u and ur to young for that.please get out now b4 its to late.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2008): Vow, you need professional help; you cannot allow anybody to abuse you like this;
Start loving yourself and stop seeing this girl; speak to counselor at school or where ever but get help; STOP the abuse;
YOU DESERVE better; yu are not gaining her love or her respect by tolerating her abuse.
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