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anonymous
writes: Hello readers.I am Adrian and I need some serious advices about my relationship. So, this is my second relationship and her first one; I must say it took me a hard time to chase her and our relationship started very slowly compared to my first horrible relationship. However, we lasted 6 years already and still continuing. We are now living together in this rented apartment nearly 8 months and we can live together harmoniously. Apart from that, we have no sex life yet. She told me she is not ready for it due to some trauma inflicted in her childhood. I never blame her for that even though I told her once before that I would want to try it but I respect her fully. I know she have been giving me unconditional love and I know she has sacrificed a lot for our relationship. I love her as much as she loves me, besides she is worth my commitment. However recently, she has been acting weird and asking lots of rhetorical question. The topics she questioned are all about kids, our future and our families. She even dressed very skimpy at night. What more is she showed a lot more intimacy than her usual self especially at night. Although she turns me on, I am not sure whether this is normal? Last two nights, she told me about that she is ready and she wants to go deeper; I really couldn’t understand what she wants to tell or express. I asked her best friend who just got married week to chat with her. But, she didn’t tell me much. I listed a few wild guesses in my mind. The best guess I could made was that she wants to get married but I’m not sure about that. I wonder what she is trying to tell me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2011): My first suggestion would be to ask her point-blank. Marriage and sex are both topics a couple should be able to discuss with each other openly before they make any decisions about them. If she is evasive and won't answer your questions, there is a chance that she isn't entirely sure about what she wants herself. If this is the case, she's going to have to figure out for herself the best method for reaching a decision. That may or may not involve experimenting with her previous boundaries. That may or may not involve asking a lot of rhetorical questions. That may or may not involve chatting with her girlfriends about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2011): In the 6 years that u have been together have u two ever had sex?Is she a virgin?
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