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writes:So here's my situation, it's been a good 6 months that my LDR ex and i have been broken up. She said that we were on different paths in life and I never understood that because we both loved each other and had made future plans together as well. And we had been dating for almost a year. Well about a week after we broke up she started dating somebody else that she met while being with me. This basically made me think that her entire reason why we should break up as an excuse and lie. Well recently i found out that her and this new guy are living together now. I was a little bit shocked when I heard this because I thought that 6 months is really really quick to be already living together. So my questing is what are people's opinions on this matter? Is 6 months too soon to be moving in together or no?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2011): I say she's moving kind of fast, moving in within 6 months is something I would not do, I need more time than 6 months to get to know the person, alot of Goof Balls out there now days. I'll be willing to bet you that she's gonna dump him just like she dumped you and then she will come running back to you and if I were you I would not give her the time of the day. I would move on.
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reader, SweetSmoochy +, writes (16 March 2011):
 Because you two are no longer dating, though it hurts, it's really not your concern any more.
My father had an experience exactly like this when he was young, and it took him a while to finally understand that his girlfriend, whom he had been with for two years, was right. They had grown apart and it wouldn't have worked any longer, even though they both liked each other and were both good people.
You will, in the future, understand what she was saying and even thank her for this. For now, you need to allow yourself to move on. Stop monitoring her life, stop worrying about what she is doing, and move on in your own life to your own dreams, relationship, and direction.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (16 March 2011):
 It depends on the relationship. Some relationships that's very soon, others it's completely natural. I have a friend who accepted a marriage proposal after only 5 days together and they've been married over 20 years.
She was longing for more in your relationship. That's the real reason it ended. This guy came along and gave her what she was looking for. Women in LDR's are easy targets because they are starved for the physical attention you cannot give due to the distance. Someone who is a "friend" can provide that attention. It happens so naturally that they don't even realize it.
She was able to move on more quickly because she was preparing for it before she actually ended things with you. You need to put her in your past and grieve your relationship. Honestly, this kind of thing shouldn't even matter to you, even if most of us have felt it at one time or another.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2011): my answer is basically that you need to move on. Im sorry, but she is obviously over you. I knowits hard to move on from someone you loved but at the end of the day this isnt your concern any more,
and no. 6 months is long enouh, it depends of the two people involved and their situation. if both of them feel comfortable and know that its right then why not
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reader, Adorskable  +, writes (16 March 2011):
 I don't think 6 months is to soon, they are living together not married so if any of them decides this is a bad decision they can just pack their bags and move out.
You have to get over her sometimes LDR don't work because a person needs to contantly see the person she is dating. I wish you luck and go out have fun date and one day you too will find the person you want to share your bed, roof, and bills with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2011): Some relationships develop more quickly than others. Six months isn't an unreasonably short time. You can get to know someone quite well in that six months. Some relationships are 'slow burn' things that grow slowly - some can be pretty instance.
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