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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2010): Don't take this the wrong way but have some balls and marry her. Everyone looks for this one love in their lifetime. The passion, the love, the friendship, the unique bond that you both have together. Everyone looks for this their entire lives, and you have it. Don't be ashamed, be careful, but be ready for some evil times...there is such a horrible stigma that the family becomes embarrassed and its just sad. It seems like no one wants anyone to be happy these days. It makes me sick. You may never find a love like this again in your lifetime.
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reader, LucyandMikeforever  +, writes (5 August 2010):
 Things didn't go so well my step dad freaked out called me inbred and slapped me the face that's when he lost it a fight broke out but I got out off there I called the cops and they broke it up my step dad was arrested and Michal got put in the hospital he broke 5 ribs and his left collar bone in the fight am stating at my brothers house till he gets out if the hospital
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reader, ihopeihelped  +, writes (4 August 2010):
 well if you truly love her you wont care what your family think you would go with your heart and do what you thing is best x hope all goes well let me know what happens
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reader, BlondeBabe x +, writes (4 August 2010):
 Well you know what if you're happy thats what is really the most important thing, hope everything goes well for you! All the best.
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reader, Altair1124 +, writes (4 August 2010):
Altair1124 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAlso Lucy's my first cousin
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reader, Altair1124 +, writes (4 August 2010):
Altair1124 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks spunky we're going to tell the family in a few every ones over at my parents house (we haven't got our own house because we're about to move to another state so we can get married) to talk to Lucy (my cousin) about the baby. I hope it goes well I'm really worried :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2010): STUFF SOCIETY..YOUR CHOICE..family hope they grow to accept.
kissing cousins x good luck follow true love not society ..the only thing that is wrong is saying that LOVE is wrong. I am a kissing cousin..and a first cousin.when did God say it is wrong to love?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2010): congrats. X, it'll work out okay, im sure.
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reader, Altair1124 +, writes (3 August 2010):
Altair1124 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe's just been released they did some tests on the her and the doc. said the tests show no defects in the 4 month old baby! =}
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reader, Altair1124 +, writes (3 August 2010):
Altair1124 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell people um fitting in the ER waiting room because she asked me to take her up here because she was experiencing really bad stomach cramps and I just received wonderful news! I decided to marry her because the doctor just told she is 4 months pregnant with my daughter! And the doctor said she is one of the healthiest babies he's ever seen! I can't wait to see my baby girl!
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (3 August 2010):
 I'd normally advise against it if you were contemplating it but since you've gone the whole hog already I suppose the best thing to do would be to take it it's logical conclusion.
Your family may not have admitted it to themselves yet but I'm sure they do know, somewhere deep down. You'll have to face them.
Maybe, just maybe, they'll get reconciled to it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2010): I'm not sure if that is classed as incest but all I can say is it's your choice and you shouldn't be worried about what your family thinks it's your life live it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2010): Well, of course your family is going to be upset by this,but if you really love each-other they have to got to get over it..in time they will grow to accept this(i hope) Just have some faith,and say yes(: Goodluck x
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reader, Altair1124 +, writes (2 August 2010):
Altair1124 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks poppy
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reader, Altair1124 +, writes (2 August 2010):
Altair1124 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell they became suspicious when we took a vacation to New Orleans just me and her they've been trying to find out what's going on between us but they have never asked us if we where together for some strange reason I thought they would have found out by now too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2010): it is not illegal to marry your cousin in georga, but it is in texas. As for birth defects they are a steriotype. Yes the risk is increased if the marriages are repeated over through the generations. But for people to say you are morally wrong is unkind any they should be ashmed of themselves for judging you expeshally if they have no medical knowlege to back them up. The only thing you need to tackle is your family. Do it together, as a united front. Show them that you mean it, present them with the facts. You have been together 5 years, your making adult, informed choises nd most of all you love eachother. Best of luck to you hunny, i hope you'll both b very happy together. Poppy.x
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reader, BlondeBabe x +, writes (2 August 2010):
In my opinion this just spells trouble, it could lead to you having alot of trouble with your family and issues with your relationship in the future.
If she is your first cousin the what you are doing is extremely wrong however anything over second cousin isnt illegial.
Look at this way you can end this now but you may life with regrets and constantly thinking 'what if?' Or follow your heart and see were this path takes you. Every family is different so will react in different ways, some make look at you in disgust or others will see a couple in love.
In all fairness though she is your cousin and always will be, no one can tell you what to do this is what you must decide for yourself.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (2 August 2010):
 So, you're only worried about how your family would react to the marriage, not the fact that you've been sleeping together for the last 5 years?
Ok, how closely are you related? Are we talking 1st cousins or is this some 4th cousin twice removed?
Generally speaking, what you are doing is incredibly wrong. Not only do you run a higher risk of birth defects, you have all of the morals of society to deal with as well. I think this whole relationship is bad news.
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reader, vampyreholic +, writes (2 August 2010):
Well, I don't think there's any law that says you cant. But at the end of the day you cannot choose who you fall in love with.
Do your family know you are together? Given you have been together for 5 years, I would assume so. Are they happy with your relationship?
I geuss you need to ask yourself what is more important to you? Your happiness or the dissaproval you MIGHT get from your family
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2010): hi i understand my cousin wants to get married to and to top it all off i am pregnant with his baby . i say if you been together this long i would say yes.
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reader, cocoqueen88 +, writes (2 August 2010):
 what is with all these people having sex with cousins.... no no no don't do it. first of all your family may never want to talk to u 2 again. secondly she's your family. i mean all these millions of people and you pick someone you're related to? jeez
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reader, Compartmentalizing +, writes (2 August 2010):
You have been together for 5 years, doesn't your family know that you two are together now? I would say go for it, my father has been with his 1st cousin for 15 years, and married for 3. They work well together and she is a great mom and grandmother. I'd say if you have been together for 5 years, go ahead and take the plunge, love doesn't come by us often!
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